Funeral Costs Fund

$4,435 of $10,000 goal

Raised by 43 people in 31 months
My name is Steve Gossett and on February 24 of this year me and my boys have lost the most important thing to us, my wife.

My wifes story is not a clean-cut case of expected death, nor was it an accident, she was a victim of the health care system and her doctor and specialists who dropped the ball on her health.

She unnecessarily died from complications of what is called uterine fibroids and was due to have a hysterectomy  just two short weeks after her death to correct her issue. They were so bad that she was bed-ridden, couldnt have bowel movements or otherwise get around without help. 

I say unnecessarily died because the doctors, under LA Care, basically worked a slow pace and didnt pay attention to our concerns regardless of her pain and immobility and one specialist saying she needed immediate surgery.

During the early morning hours of Feb 24 she went to the bathroom, came out hyperventilating and said she needs to go to ER. I took her, about seven minutes away, and within an hour she was gone.

I later found out from the autopsy doctor that one of the masses she had that was just behind the uterus burst so she essentially bled to death in the ER room with not a single person picking up on the signs of her rapidly losing blood pressure leading up to her heart stopping. All those chest compressions they were doing just simply pumped her blood out right through that mass that burst. 

Past my starting this Gofundme page, I do have a Wordpress blog ( http://www.stevegossett.info/bring-cristina-home/) where I journal the whole tragic story from her death, to the crappy coroner being so backlogged they kept her for almost a month, and continue to write about her/our story as things continue to unfold.

Things have been extremely tough on us emotionally and financially and it was suggested to me to try this site to try and raise money for what we have used for funeral expenses such as for the mortuary and to help with our travel arrangements to the Philippines to deliver my wifes ashes to put next to her dad and so that her family can have some closure. Thats the hardest part at this point for me and my boys. I just want to get my wife home and to rest. 

My sons are 12 years old, twins, one is autistic and the other is not. They miss their mom and even though one of my boys is autistic I know he doesnt fully comprehend this as sometimes he comes home from school and goes to look in our room to see if anyone is there.

My wife and I have not asked much out of this life other than the roof over our heads, jobs, good health for us and our boys and good friends. I have mixed emotions asking anyone publicly for something I havent really earned but if this helps us then its a blessing. 

I cant offer much in return but blessings, or for the agnostic a simple thanks. In any regard, thank you for anything you donate, me and my boys appreciate it.
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I, and on behalf of my boys, want to take another opportunity to thank everyone who donated to our fund. Its nice when people pull together for something like this and I have nothing but positive thoughts for all.

I thoroughly believe that when something nice is done for you that you return that by doing something nice for someone else.

I call it the pinball effect. Sometime in our lives we are the ball and sometimes in life we are the bumpers with the paddle being the higher source directing our beginning path.

Being the bumpers in life, we are helping the person (ball) who comes along and then sending them on their way to touch someone else on their path. Similar could be said of us as the ball, finding our path with the help of others as we help others. I think its a pleasant circle in life actually.

In any regard, thanks to all.

Steve and the boys
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I want to thank everyone again who has come together in our time of need. Every day its more humbling for me to receive this kind of kindness when I hear about other families experiencing their own tragedies with lost loved ones and families with children who are fighting for their lives, such as Drake who has brain cancer ( https://www.gofundme.com/7pz83p4k) or these children whose father died as a victim of a drunk driver ( https://www.gofundme.com/vkubh4).

In an update for my family situation, it is great that my work has been flexible with my schedule and allowing me to work at home a few hours later in the work day in order to accommodate my sons. I am able to get my son to his various appointments for his autism services and his brother now gets picked up from school by the Police Activities League for after school activities.

I am still months away, at best, from receiving a final coroner’s report or a final death certificate because of how backlogged the LA County Coroner is with the departed. Unbelievable, as well as unfortunate and tragic, that they are processing the departed in the 3,000's plus now and its only April. That means a lot more families and loved ones are experiencing just as much anguish as myself. Deaths in Los Angeles County are apparently at epidemic levels.

Out of my family’s personal loss of my wife I have learned to educate people, point blank, to think about things like this no matter what their age because tragedy does not discriminate against age or sex. I preach the necessities of having a plan in the event of tragedies. It’s the only benefit I can breed from my tragedy to help others.

I would still like to try and make our full goal if at all possible and ask that if you have any outlets to share my story with or have any ideas in continuing fundraising, all is greatly appreciated.
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It’s really hard to find the right words but I thank everyone who has contributed and expressed their interest in our family tragedy. I can only give prayers of thanks and repay the favor for any of you should the need arise one day. My faith has been restored on so many levels and I feel very grateful and humbled to be deserving of such kindness in time of need. A heartfelt thanks to all of you.
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$4,435 of $10,000 goal

Raised by 43 people in 31 months
Created April 6, 2016
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Anonymous
30 months ago
RC
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Roxanne Cean
31 months ago

Prayers to you and your boys.

LM
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LeiAnna Matthews
31 months ago

I am so sorry to hear of the news.

MT
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Marina Totalca
31 months ago

My thoughts are with you and your family. xo

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31 months ago
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