Please Help Starla Battle Breast Cancer
My friend Starla is one of the most compassionate, kind and giving individuals that I have ever met. She quietly goes out of her way to help others and make their lives easier.
When she told me that she had cancer, breast cancer (invasive ductal carcinoma), (which she has named “Bill” from the movie “Kill Bill” - even cancer can’t take away her humor) I was devastated, and later when she sent me a card and a note saying she was thinking of me, I was humbled.
She has been of service through the American Red Cross, CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocates), Children & Youth Ministry... any where she can help. Starla has always made sure that everyone around her is cared for and will make sure that everyone else needs are's met before her own.
Starla will need a life saving surgery and has to drive over an hour away multiple times per week for her medical appointments. There are many little things that she and her family will need to get them through this difficult time.
It heartbreaking for her and her family that we need to ask for financial help since they are very independent people, but we humbly ask for your support in helping them with the financial funds to help pay for the treatment and unexpected bills over the next several months so that they can focus on becoming cancer free again!
They appreciate all the help, support and love coming their way and no matter how small of a donation will be greatly appreciated!
If you find it in your heart to help her as she has done for many of us, please donate to help Starla and her family through this difficult time.
May God bless you!
Pam just got diagnosed with macular degeneration.
They may be able to slow it down but there is no cure.
The pathology bill just came in and the amount due after the insurance was upwards of 1,000.00.
We tend to forget that cancer continues to affect a person even after the surgeries are over. This is a long, slow and expensive process.
If you are able, please gift Starla's family in any way that you are able.
Y’all, I “thought” I was tough, but this experience has kicked my butt-tootie. Recovery has been rough, much rougher and longer than I expected. Pain, healing issues, family issues (not Superman, he really is a superhero!) exhaustion, overwhelming sadness and grief and just a heaviness of my soul...
I saw my surgeon, today, for my third post op appointment and I am hopeful today is a turning point - my drains came out! The picture is of my drain holder as we tossed it before we left the the office lol!
It feels so liberating not to be tied to those drains. I’m really hoping I can finally transition from the recliner to our bed. Yeah, three weeks in the recliner - I don’t recommend it.
Everything exhausts me. Take a shower. I have to rest. Go to town. I am asleep for a couple of hours. Change in... anything and I’m prone to dissolve in tears. And forget about watching, “This is Us” on NBC! Sob fest!
My surgeon says the exhaustion, at this point, is normal because my body is coming down after the high and initial stress of surgery and all the emotions that come with this surgery. She gave me “permission” to take naps and not be so hard on myself. My incision or part of it (4-5 inches) still isn’t healing well because of preexisting skin issues & sensitivities. My incisions are 12-inches each, so it’s going to take a bit longer overall anyway.
It’s really looking like it will be a solid 6-8 weeks before I’m somewhat back to myself and probably longer before I’m up to full speed. There is no way I can make soap or do any of the things that helps our finances a bit. I’ll be lucky if I get seeds started for our garden this year. Sigh... pity party time.
My Oncologist, I saw her this week too, advised me to increase my protein, start taking Centrum vitamins (Superman got us the “His” & “Her” bottles and has joined me in my pursuit of healing ), and use warm compresses on the area, hoping these three things will help. She also gave me permission to eat chocolate. LOL!
She won’t start additional treatments until I am healed up, however, it looks like my OncotypeDX (the tumor DNA test I mentioned in my last update) number may be low enough that I can avoid chemo and just take the oral medications for the next 10 years. I got the results from the Surgeon. Now my oncologist has to review them.
I’ve also developed. Costochondritis. I’ve had flares of it in the past, but not quite this bad. If you’ve never heard of it before, its “an inflammation of the junctions where the upper ribs join with the cartilage that holds them to the breastbone, or sternum.” and let me tell you, it’s quite painful. If you have experienced it yourself, you have my deepest sympathies.
The thing that makes it difficult to treat is that I can’t take NSAIDs because of the severe stomach pain. We tried Celebrex, while it too is an anti-inflammatory, it generally doesn’t affect the stomach and if it does, it does so to a lesser degree. It gave me migraines after a couple of days on it. So... yeah... I’m sure the pain is having some effect on my emotions.
I have about a two week reprieve before I have to make another dr. Office appearance - Yay! Seriously, yay! Between all the appointments this week, we’ve had to fill our gas tank at least twice, but I think it was actually 3 times. Smh! I have friends in other areas of the country bragging about gas prices under $2... why can’t we get those prices here on the west coast?!!
Anyway, it’s a happy day...those darn drains were the devil!
So why am I crying again?
We love you all and are so thankful to have you in our lives! Your love, encouragement and support have humbled us and we are so grateful! ♥️
It is humbling to see her going through this with such a beautiful heart and attitude. Due to the slower than expected recovery time they are not able to catch up financially and things have been rough. Thank you for reading.
She has been able to get up and use the restroom. The pain is increasing because the surgery medicine is wearing off, but they are working on getting her pain under control.
Starla is having nebulizer treatments now to ward off pneumonia, she will continue this for at least 6 weeks.
Starla just found out that she has to continue staying at the hospital instead of going home. She is disappointed but grateful for the Dr's and Nurses taking care of her. Starla's mom Pam is at home and is doing ok, and Steve is by Starla's side.
Thank you all for your support during this most difficult time.