We fled domestic violence/stalking & have nothing

My daughter and I have, through your help, shares, donations and support finally managed to escape my abusive ex-boyfriend. He had been threatening to or he tried to kill me in front of Flora on more than one occasion. Just one example would be choking me until I blacked out while I was driving with my three year old in the car, or many times at home. In addition to the beatings there were terrifying tirades that would last for hours) in front of Flora (my then, 2 year old daughter, pictured above) He mentally, emotionally, and verbally abused me, as well as horribly physically. He and his insane father had been stalking me (again) and he had threatened yet again to kill me. The last conversation we had, he told me that he had been thinking about having someone come to do it or that he would kill me himself. A week after that he broke my front window, because I was scared and didn’t let him in. Last week he unsuccessfully tried to force his way into my home It was pure adrenaline on my part that shut the front door. It was never going to end and they’d made our life a living hell. It was so that I had to look over my shoulder every time Flora and I left the house. Because of people like you I no longer have to do that. I’ve finally made it to safety with my three year old and the remaining contents of our life which are only enough to fill the back of my 1995 Volkswagen Polo. We have a good support system where we are now and I have their full support in my decision to flee here and they’re over the moon that we are here. They can help us out with a lot but, financially we cannot, nor should we assume that we can rely on them. They’re already doing so much by welcoming us in until we have our own place. I don’t want us to disrupt their lives anymore than we have to. A roof over our head with people who love us for a short period of time is what we have now, as. As I mentioned above, in so many words,there is a time clock on how long the three of us can stay in a small one bedroom house, but the money that this go fund me will raise would get us set up close to family, and off the couch. Though we have nothing, I feel like we have everything, now that we are safe, however clothes and the precious things we couldn’t part with isn’t even a fraction of what we lost when we had to leave everything behind. We have No beds, furniture, anything for our kitchen ( no forks, spoons. pots or pans, plates, or anything else kitchen wise for that matter); not to mention the fact that we are technically homeless because we had to run away from that monster to have peace in our lives and be safe and stay alive. We are here, but since we came with so little, any further donations would be such a blessing and help We have arrived at our safe destination, but because of him I had to part with 98% of our belongings. I had begun looking for work before we left Rotterdam l already have two interviews next week, so I’m being very proactive when it comes to my becoming independent again. The jobs don't begin for several months and I still have so much to arrange. It has been extremely hard for me to ask for help and admit what I’d been hiding from everyone and what happened when I decided to be done with it (him). We are starting from scratch. I’ve widdled all we have to our name down to what will fit in my VW Polo. We will make it, but your help gives us motivation and a safety net. A safety net is something we’ve needed for so long. Please share this, so we can have our own home and simple furnishings as soon as possible and begin again with mostly second hand furniture for our home, including our bedrooms, and kitchen. We had no choice, but to leave everything behind and run to safety and we hope, with your help, to have our own place here very quickly. As I said, I am being extremely proactive in trying to find work, but first we have to cut through a lot of red tape, and I’m not entirely sure what that all will cost us or what this entails. We immigrated it was so bad at home. Please help us build our new lives here. I hope that we can still count on you to help us during this leg of our journey. This is what our future hinges upon. I don’t want to let anyone down. I don’t want to let me down. I certainly don’t want to let my daughter down. We left most of her toys behind as well and donated everything we could to charity. It’s going to take some time to get used to my new home/land, their protocol and remain patient during all of the bureaucracy, which we will undoubtedly be confronted with. We have immigrated. We didn’t just move around the corner. I still need time to heal from the many mental, physical, emotional wounds I’ve collected over the last few years, but I’m starting to feel so much better. I already feel completely different than I did in the Netherlands.You’ve all given me hope that we can count on you when we need you. I’m looking forward to helping you or someone else in need once I am back on my feet. If you’ve literally ever had to start again with nothing or had a similar situation to that of ours, You also should understand how difficult it is to begin again with nothing, especially when there is a three year old who is completely dependent on you involved. I am determined to make this work, but I am not going to become a burden to others either. Please consider our current situation. We made it away from our stalker/dangerous violent ex and his father, but at a very high cost to us. We have some bags of clothes and precious things. But, that’s all. If you can spare it donate, please donate so that we can get set up here. Definitely share this, please, even if you have already and if you can, donate. Your shares help us reach a broader audience. We are safe, but we still have a ways to go before we are settled. I do plan to deactivate this campaign the moment we have more clarity on our housing situation, and I know that I have procured employment. Keep sending thoughts, prayers, and good juju that I get this job, and that we will be on our feet and walking tall again. I am excited about our future, and I am so thankful for those of you who will help us to get settled and have been a part of changing our lives. I assure you that it is not my, nor will it ever be my intention to ever take more than what we need. Thank you once again. You are saving us and helping us on to a new life. We will never forget you. We will be happy to help others more after this experience. If there are those of you who wish to donate, but don’t have a credit card, my PayPal details are: hcanady75@gmail.com. Please just leave me a message there or on Facebook at: Heather Colleen Canady, so I will know who to thank for their generosity and concern for our future. We couldn’t be more grateful to you guys. You’re truly making a difference in our lives. Please keep sharing, so that we can get closer to our goal and away from this danger to our family. 

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  • Anonymous 
    • €30 
    • 2 mos
  • Robyn  
    • €40 
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  • Melissa Saberi 
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Organizer 

Heather Colleen Canady 
Organizer
Liskwartier, NL
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