Bring Mika Home

Hello,

If your seeing this it’s because our paths have crossed over the years and we have left a lasting impression on each other’s lives and I appreciate you caring enough to read this and potentially joining in my cause. I’m so grateful for the friendships I have in this life and the people who show me love.

It’s with a heavy heart that I write this. It’s taken me about a week for me to decide what needed to be done and I have to say that I’m just destroyed at this moment and I am so emotional about this topic because of how helpless I feel. As most of you know Mika my daughter was born 4 years ago and ever since the moment she was born I’ve loved her in a way I’ve never loved any other human being. I knew I was dedicated to her for the rest of my life. The relationship between her mother Missy and I wasn’t meant to last and I didn’t think that staying together was going to give Mika the best environment to develop in. This obviously caused turmoil in the relationship So she decided that she was going to remove me from the situation and start to make her own decisions about Mika. At first after separating things were semi-amicable and I was able to see Mika one day a week when Missy was still in San Diego; But once Covid hit Missy had to stop working and was uncertain about her situation and decided without notifying me that she was going to pack up her things and take Mika to Wyoming to live with my estranged adopted parents who I hadn’t spoken to in years. So on the Saturday that I come to pick her up for a visit I call Missy to let her know that I’m at her apartment and she notifies me that it wasn’t going to be possible for me to see Mika that day because they were 600 miles away. After only being able to see Mika one day a week for the last few months and trying to keep things amicable with Missy only for this to happen was an obvious instant heartbreak. There was zero conversation about this decision she just fled the state. There was no contact and then about two weeks later I received a call from my adopted mother who said that Missy was no longer going to be living with them and that there was some sort of an interaction where the police were involved and she had to leave their home with Mika. At that point I reached out to Missy and finally got in touch with her she said her plan was to move to Colorado with a roommate and start working at a salon and that she already had a job lined up and a place for her and Mika to move into. She told me that I would be able to come and visit whenever I wanted and take Mika for weekends whenever I could make it to Colorado. At this point I was desperate to know what my options were to rectify the situation and guarantee that Mika was going to be in some sort of a stable environment. When I looked into my options getting a lawyer was the only one reasonable choice. I looked into legal aid and Pro bono legal services and financially I do not qualify. I did a couple of free consultations and each one told me that I needed a $2000 retainer plus $200 an hour to make anything happen. I wasn’t in the financial situation where I could do something like that and I haven’t been since any of this went down. Honestly looking back I feel like I should’ve asked for this help along time ago.

Missy and Mika moved in with a roommate in Colorado and I came out and visited a few months later. Mika seemed to be adjusting fine and was able to stay with me while I visited her in colorado. I just felt whole again being able to spend time with her again. I knew I had friends nearby that if anything was to happen I could rely on them have my back and help in anyway they could. I bought her a portal video chat monitor so that we could do video calls whenever she wanted to call me. We talked on average about once a week and I visited her three more times over the course of the next year and a half. The last time I visited with her on the last day day while driving her home. Jason Missy’s current boyfriend soon to be fiancé was brought up in conversation which lead to Mika in her best three-year-old grammar telling me a scenario in which Jason and Missy had gotten into a physical fight and that the police had been called. Immediately my heart sank hearing my 3-year-old daughter tell me this story moments before I was about to drop her back off at her moms house. It made me want to immediately turn around and drive straight back to California with her. To avoid potential kidnapping charges which I unlike Missy was unwilling to risk. I dropped her off at her moms house. Gave her a hug said my goodbyes and didn’t let Missy know anything about the conversation Knowing that if I showed my cards that she would react in a negative way and risk having contact with Mika again. When I got home I devised a plan to save enough money to get the lawyer and finalize some sort of accountability for Missy to guarantee mikas stability and safety. I was doing just that until about two months ago when my company dissolved because one of our accounts refused to pay a large invoice. Which resulted in me having to evaluate new opportunities and moving to a new company. I have a great new job I’m working hard and things are going great but in sales it takes time for money to build. And unfortunately Mika doesn’t have the luxury of that time.

Two weeks ago I received a message request on Facebook from someone I didn’t know. It was the same day that Mika was unavailable for our weekly video chat. The message stated that this individual represented child protective services in Colorado and that there had been an incident involving Mika. I immediately reached out to Missy to find out that her and Mika had flown from Colorado and we’re now somewhere in Hawaii. I called the number for the CPS agent and was informed that Mika had been witness to a brutal physical fight that took place between Jason and Missy and that this fight was so bad that she ran to the Neighbors house to ring the ring camera and then the neighbors called the police. That night Jason was taken to jail and Missy was taken to spend the night in detox because her blood alcohol levels were so high. Mika spent the night at the neighbors house because Missy told child protective services that I was not at all in the picture and then I had no contact with her or Mika. The agent did a little further searching and came across my Facebook saw all of the pictures of me and Mika together and made the connection. Unfortunately there’s nothing that child protective services can do in this case since Jason is the only one facing charges for the situation. Missy left Colorado Immediately and left all her and Mikas belongings in storage and went to Hawaii. I did one video call with Mika and since talking to Missy Missy has blocked me completely. There hasn’t been any communication in a week and I’m losing my mind. I’ve tried several times to call and to video chat directly with Mika with no success. Given the gravity of the situation and my duty to protecting Mika I am forced into humility to ask for your help in any small or large way that you were eligible to. I have no intention of trying to take Mika away from her mother but at this point I can’t trust Missy’s judgment or that she can provide a safe and stable environment for Mika to grow in and have access to both parents to love her and be part of her development. I just want what’s best for Mika and I have to take action now.

No matter how small or large your gift please know that it’s Appreciated from the bottom of my heart. In whatever way I can in as short a time as possible I promise you to repay you for your help in this emergency. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place and literally the only thing that can help in the situation is a lawyer or money to get one. If there’s anyway that you can afford to help in anyway I am indebted to you. It’s so hard for me to ask and typically I try to stay as positive as I can about every situation but I feel just overwhelmed and hopeless right now. I need to take action to make this right and make sure that I’m doing my best to protect Mika but I need help.

Thank you,