Hallo, it’s Vhe. I’ve been away for a long time being a traveling/trailing spouse. The romance and mystery of it has long gone. It is more of an outer world experience - muted by language, deafened by arguing, stifled by boundaries and lost somewhere far from home with no end of sight. It’s a story of adventure, pain, wonder and retrospection. It has been and is my life. I want to put it to page while I’m still living in it. I need a safe space and the time apart from the source of my trauma to do it. He won’t sign the papers. He won’t respect my process. He refuses to let me go. I’ve got to escape. I’m going to the nearby city, to a tiny apartment in the sky and I’m going to write him out of my life. This is my last chance at getting anywhere but here. A sabbatical from it all. A trip in time without a stop in this now. A place too far from home for him or anyone to stop me. A place where I can plant both feet on the ground and know where I am. To know who I was. To honor my potential. To secure my future. Will you invest in me? Wouldn’t you like to know? Isn’t it time?

Latest Campaign Announcement Updated 24.05.2026 

If you are reading this, you have funded me, wish to fund me or just met me and want to know more about me. THANK YOU for being here and hopefully staying here through this journey! I did a thing, I wrote a book and a lot of people helped but there is still a long way to go. 

 First, let me fill you in on what has been happening… RIGHT NOW the book stands at ... 

24 chapters

     382 pages 

           and 161k words 

This is a rough draft, double spaced, in 9 font so with feedback I wish to reduce the book down to a more sellable version which will have industry average pages and words.

 Why?

Because I plan to send my book off to a publisher imprint by Monday June 1st 2026! This has been my goal for some time so that is why I rushed myself to be done with this project by Spring 2026. Because I am using “Submittable” to my chosen imprint - things are digital and precise. However, I will eventually need full manuscript physical copies of my book which will be around 75 euros per copy if holed and bound by the copier. 

 My backup plan is to query to other publishers ONLY once I receive feedback from the publisher I chose that accepts submissions without an agent. If they will have me, consider everything done! If they do not I am fully prepared to spend the next 90 days refining my book based on feedback from beta readers, friends & family and of course the imprint. If I must move into this phase to query to a lot of publishers at once .... I NEED YOU! 

 Not only will you get a digital copy of my rough draft but you will support me throughout this phase of uncertainty and waiting. Beta Readers give me the tools I need to continue my work and stay the course! 

This is where that money will go ...

1190,00 THOMAS’ DEBT

675,00 ENERCITY OVERAGE 

1200,00 SPARKLE THE PUG’S REMAINING SURGERY DEBT 

280,00 SPARKLE THE PUG’S ULTRASOUND

171,00 MOM’S COURT FEES 

330,00 KLARNA 

OH AND AHEM... 1 million dollas 

FOR MY 45TH BIRTHDAY ON JUNE 6TH SO PIN A DOLLA SO I CAN HOLLA!!!

( I really want Ye tickets as a celebration ) 

(( He got a whole spinning world stage )) 

 

FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions 

(an abridged version)

  1. What are YOU funding? 

 The book, a project to support the topics in the book and paying debts 

 2. How did I get an apartment without ANY money?

 I knew someone who let me take the apartment sight unseen

 3. So you are now in debt? Why don't you get a job? 

 Yes , I am in debt and the short answer of why I didn't or don't get a job is I tried and I couldn't

 4. Okay so that was last year - do you really expect OUR donations to continue to support YOUR lifestyle? How is this sustainable? What are YOU going to do about your own situation? 

I did. I no longer have his cards, his banking etc. He made sure of that. This isn't sustainable. I fucked up. I honestly do not know what I am going to do. I thought the book would save me. However, the book could fail. I am looking for a job. I am trying to get afloat. However, this entire fiasco is really hard here in Germany. I do not know what I am going to do. 

 5. Why don't you just come on home?

 I'll answer that with where do you think home is for someone like me?

 6. We don't even know what the book is about? Why do you think your trauma is different than others? What makes your story worthy of being told?

The book is a hybrid memoir full of flashbacks to those traumatic incidents that lead up to my husband's late ASD, Sociopathy and OCPD diagnoses, my acceptance and now the three year long journey to divorce. My story isn't some sort of showing of who had it worse. My story is really no different than the average telling of abuse and how to get out of it. What my story is more about is how life lead me to an abusive relationship. The way the story is meant to be told is to advise others on how to avoid this trajectory and to leave immediately. Right now, there aren't many resources for people in emotionally and or financially abusive situations. There aren't enough resources for adult late diagnosed autism, personality disorders and sociopathy. My story will discuss the lack thereof and how I had to find out I was being abused by someone who was unaware that they were abusive. I am diving deeper than just a retelling but offering ways to escape the trauma and do so with grace and mindfulness. I am going to explore deep, profound implications of unconditional love, delayed diagnosis, untreated diagnosis, forgiveness, empathy and more. If this is something you want to support, the campaign remains for you to support me! 

 7. Okay so what is MY donation going towards now and what do I get out of it? 

Unfortunately, I will only share thanks and updates in this space. I am not providing excerpts of my book or giving funders any specific incentive to donate. Please offer to read the rough draft and provide feedback for me? Or wait until it is a bestseller to buy your copy!

THANK YOU TO ALL