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Let's make a baby! Patti & IVF

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At the urging of many friends and family, I have decided that it is in fact not a bad thing, but instead an act of openness and love to ask for help on our fertility journey. Thank you for taking the time to read our story!

We started trying to conceived in January 2019 the old fashioned way. After an unsuccessful year of that (and a job change that meant a gap in insurance that prolonged the inevitable), we made the leap and went to a fertility clinic in January 2020. Our Reproductive Endocrinologist (her name is Dr Wheeler  can you believe it!) was pretty optimistic at first, suggesting IUI  (artificial insemination) with this medication called Clomid  that made me have hot flashes along with feelings I didn't know existed but also makes more than one egg get ready to be fertilized to increase the chances of success. Just before we were set to start the first round, this super wild test  revealed I had a 2 cm mass in my uterus. I went in for surgery the last day Beaumont allowed "elective" surgeries before the shutdown, the polyp was completely removed, and my uterus was said to then be "beautiful." Yay! 

Two unsuccessful IUI with Clomid cycles later, it was discovered that a brand new polyp made a home in my uterus and I underwent another surgery. After my uterus was once again beautiful, we decided to move onto IUI with injectable medication , which is a lot more money but also has double the success rate. While injecting myself with two different kinds of hormones every day certainly wasn't fun (for me or for Josh. Holy moly are hormones serious), we felt very hopeful. Unfortunately, that cycle also failed.

Diagnosed with Diminished Ovarian Reserve  (which basically means I don't have many eggs left and the clock is really ticking) and some male faction infertility as well, which leaves our only option as doing IVF  (in vitro fertilization). Because of our specific circumstances, Dr. Wheeler recommends doing ICSI, ERA (testing my endometrium to see when is the best time to transfer an embryo), and pre-implantation genetic testing of any embryos we get to make sure we are transferring the one with the best chance to lead to a successful pregnancy.

What this all means is science costs a lot of money, and we need to act soon. The longer we wait, the less likely we are to have IVF work. 

I have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember; it's something I feel deep in my bones I was meant to be. 

I appreciate any assistance you are able to give, even if it is just sharing my story. It is hard for us to ask for help, but so many of you have encouraged us to do so that we know it is the right thing to do. We are grateful for your interest in helping make our dream come true.

So much love to you all. We are so thankful.

Love,

Patti Wheeler
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Detroit, MI

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