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I never thought I would be doing this, but here we are.
Some of you may know that I left my husband abruptly in March, after only 2 years of marriage and 6 years together. What you may not know is that during those years, I was also the victim of domestic abuse. Not only was it me, but it was also my teenage daughter who had to hear and witness the verbal and emotional abuse that was happening in our home. I left in March to go to a relative’s house because it had gotten to a point that I feared for my safety and the safety of my daughter.
My therapist told me to start documenting and recording things as proof along with having a bag ready to leave at a moments notice. I had to start saving money but it was hard when the accounts were always overdrawn.
In December I have audio of him yelling at me for an hour straight because I don't love him enough. I have audio of him asking me if I want to "nibble on the barrel of his gun or just pull the trigger. He sends me continuous texts that are veiled threats...always able to say he meant something else. In December he also threw a large TV at me and the police did nothing. When he finally left he sent me a text
He always told me there was something wrong with my head and I was crazy. And there is so much more. I live in fear of him loosing it and shooting me.
Our accounts were constantly overdrawn for years because of his excessive drinking and spending. Before him…I had a home. I had an amazing career as a teacher in a high needs school. I had friends and a life. After him….My daughter and I have lost our home, our belongings, and we have even been without our clothes for the past 4 ½ moths. I am trying to pay off debts and still keep current bills paid. I cannot afford a lawyer and he has a lawyer and filed for divorce. I am only being allowed 2, 5 hour days to pack and move things and at a time designated by him. He has told my sister that 2, 5 hour days will be plenty of time for what he is leaving me with. So, I am assuming we will be starting over with nothing or very little.
I am working on transitioning from "victim" to "survivor", but it is a struggle. I have not been able to afford counseling and the domestic shelters are behind because of Covid. I still live in fear every day of what he will do next and how far he will go. I also want to just say that I'm working very hard to pick up the pieces and get things back on track, but too much has happened too quickly for me to beat the financial clock. The last thing I want to do is air out my business and beg for help, but unfortunately at this point, pride is a luxury I can't afford.
Nobody should feel obligated to help, you absolutely should not send money if you don't have it to spare, and I'm not here to judge you if you're unwilling or unable. If you can and do, though, it will be appreciated tremendously.
Unfortunately, when it rains, it really does pour, and there have been a number of complications that have made this process far more emotionally, physically, and financially taxing than I even imagined. Any help will be greatly appreciated.
Some of you may know that I left my husband abruptly in March, after only 2 years of marriage and 6 years together. What you may not know is that during those years, I was also the victim of domestic abuse. Not only was it me, but it was also my teenage daughter who had to hear and witness the verbal and emotional abuse that was happening in our home. I left in March to go to a relative’s house because it had gotten to a point that I feared for my safety and the safety of my daughter.
My therapist told me to start documenting and recording things as proof along with having a bag ready to leave at a moments notice. I had to start saving money but it was hard when the accounts were always overdrawn.
In December I have audio of him yelling at me for an hour straight because I don't love him enough. I have audio of him asking me if I want to "nibble on the barrel of his gun or just pull the trigger. He sends me continuous texts that are veiled threats...always able to say he meant something else. In December he also threw a large TV at me and the police did nothing. When he finally left he sent me a text
He always told me there was something wrong with my head and I was crazy. And there is so much more. I live in fear of him loosing it and shooting me.
Our accounts were constantly overdrawn for years because of his excessive drinking and spending. Before him…I had a home. I had an amazing career as a teacher in a high needs school. I had friends and a life. After him….My daughter and I have lost our home, our belongings, and we have even been without our clothes for the past 4 ½ moths. I am trying to pay off debts and still keep current bills paid. I cannot afford a lawyer and he has a lawyer and filed for divorce. I am only being allowed 2, 5 hour days to pack and move things and at a time designated by him. He has told my sister that 2, 5 hour days will be plenty of time for what he is leaving me with. So, I am assuming we will be starting over with nothing or very little.
I am working on transitioning from "victim" to "survivor", but it is a struggle. I have not been able to afford counseling and the domestic shelters are behind because of Covid. I still live in fear every day of what he will do next and how far he will go. I also want to just say that I'm working very hard to pick up the pieces and get things back on track, but too much has happened too quickly for me to beat the financial clock. The last thing I want to do is air out my business and beg for help, but unfortunately at this point, pride is a luxury I can't afford.
Nobody should feel obligated to help, you absolutely should not send money if you don't have it to spare, and I'm not here to judge you if you're unwilling or unable. If you can and do, though, it will be appreciated tremendously.
Unfortunately, when it rains, it really does pour, and there have been a number of complications that have made this process far more emotionally, physically, and financially taxing than I even imagined. Any help will be greatly appreciated.