Good day Family & Friends,

I want to be upfront with you that I’m not doing well emotionally, as well as, financially & have hidden it well; until I immediately started feeling & looking my age & not caring about life a short time ago. My second marriage was a second chance at love & to have a happier balanced life, but it has failed and I’m reaching out to all of you for some minor support, both in prayer & financially. The need for asking for financial help has not crossed my mind for a very long time & I’m embarrassed to ask.

I have not asked for any financial support or assistance from anyone since I was a teenager & I have financially assisted many others in need throughout my life, and now I’ve been confronted with a second financial catastrophe in my life in which now I will not be able to recover from to retire in the near future as planned & to pay for current continuously increasing legal fees. All I’m asking for is what you can spare that would cover a good cup of coffee or tea & maybe a pastry if you like them; even the smallest amounts add up.

I’ve sadly been subjected to or fell for another military ten-year divorce plan that has been conducted by thousands of military spouses over the decades; which happened to me in 2005 & a military friend of mine as well. My first wife had me served divorce documents a couple days before Thanksgiving in 2005, 6 months after our 10th wedding anniversary, while on deployed orders away from my 3 children for 54 weeks, not enabling me to hire an attorney for divorce proceedings resulting in a monthly judgement for alimony and child support of $1,128, at the time, for 10 years totaling $135K & then 20% of my retirement monthly thereafter for the rest of my life, my ex-wife’s life, or when she remarries. So, my military retirement pay is not all mine & I’ve only been able to effectively work part-time, due to physical & mental injuries acquired during 23+ years of Active-Duty military service in the U.S. Coast Guard as a Sailor & Surface Force Independent Duty Corpsman (SFIDC) since retiring in 2016 to supplement my simple life & to share it with my current wife, her daughter, my immediate family, friends, & acquaintances.

My current military wife, a U.S. Army Reservist of 18 years, a UCSF Neurology Administration Specialist of 25+ years, & a CA / TX Licensed Nurse of 4+ years, had me served divorce documents at work, in front of my class of EMT students, about a week before Christmas 2025, three months after our 10th year wedding anniversary. To make the situation worse I was involved in a head-on collision motor vehicle incident on Jan 1st, New Year’s Day, & my wife didn’t care about my injuries; which I’m still recovering from after 10 weeks of Physical Therapy, Chiropractic spinal adjustments, & Neuromuscular Therapy. I remarried for love, as well as, my wife did; not for money as she stated 10+ years ago, which doesn’t appear to be true according to her actions.

16 years ago, my current wife, was bankrupt, living paycheck to paycheck, & living with her brother, when we met, with her 6 year old daughter; which I helped rebuild her credit & financial foundation before we were married. Her ex-husband, my step-daughters father, never paid alimony or child support after their divorce. I failed to react to my family’s & closest friends analysis / advice of my fiancé during our 5-year courtship; to implement a prenuptial agreement and I now regret my inaction; I’m sorry for not listening & acting.

Like they say, “Love is blind” & that blindness has hit me in the back like a Mack (Semi) truck”.

When we met, I spent thousands of dollars repairing her car over a few years, as well as, using my personal time getting those repairs completed, eventually I bought her a Honda Accord in 2011, paid for a beautiful wedding in Las Vegas in 2015; thank you to those who attended & celebrated with me, & then a new 2015 Honda CR-V EX-L, as a wedding present out of the goodness of my heart, which I took care of most of the maintenance & to relieve the stress of her having to take care of a vehicle. I also paid for, installed, & maintained many extra’s that simply went un-noticed like nice husbands do; like, 24-hour home surveillance coverage, special door & window latches, self-defense gear, First aid kits at home & all vehicles, Disaster gear; portable solar system, cooking gear & emergency food to cover 3 months for each person, Netflix, Amazon Prime, home maintenance (indoor & outdoor), vehicle maintenance, electronics protection (virus, malware, & identity protection), AAA coverage, etc, etc; all the while, she made more than me, yet I never needed to be thanked.

In Nov 2025 she called me “selfish”, six weeks after she quit her job, & a week before Christmas she had me served divorce documents. That was the first time in my life when a word actually directed at me hurt & it hurt to the core! The saying growing up, “Stick and Stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”, only applies when one or more words are told to you is by someone that you do not love or care about & I loved her.

I am disclosing some very personal information so you understand where I am emotionally & financially; the majority of my savings is already depleted & will last another 4 – 6 hours of legal & accounting fees. The reason why I’m asking for financial assistance is I had to hire an attorney, plus their paralegal, for the first time in my life due to my wife changing her divorce filing status a month ago to a “contested” divorce & hired another attorney for half of all my assets and alimony; a huge reversal of our initial divorce agreement; “let’s keep what’s ours & move on”. My assets are in market investments, some things I don’t want part with & my car; which most of you may know is one of my hobbies to keep stable.

My Attorney had me hire an Accountant who specializes in the separation of assets / community property, half of one year of my retirement pay, especially investment dividends over our 10 years of our marriage, which is currently an approximate loss of $150K, plus penalties. The accountants hardest task is separating investment interest / dividends & separate property before & after marriage, & future earnings. Legal & accountant fees have already reached $13.5K in just three weeks; which is estimated by my attorney and accountant to reach $25K+ by the end of divorce proceedings; especially if we end up not settling out of court. Sadly & surprisingly my wife’s total investments & assets after 25+ years professional employment is 1/4 of mine & is amazingly $27K in debt, which I was not aware of and will be responsible for half of that; I didn’t see that coming. I also discovered my wife bought property in Las Vegas the day before we got married in Las Vegas; which is separate property, but apparently planned on her part; that’s my educated assumption, as well as, my attorney’s.

I am just asking for minimal support to help me stay afloat during this personal crisis since this will be a severe financial loss that I will not recover from over the remainder of my life & I’m only working one to two days a week. I will have to move this summer & break our current lease; most likely losing my lease deposit ($2K) & then having to pay for another security deposit, plus first month’s rent to move into a new place. I’m in a hurricane I didn’t see coming & my primary purpose in life was to help people. My mental health provider has currently put me on Medical / Sick Leave from work over the next few weeks to get all the requested documents to my legal team & accountant, proper rest, get re-grounded, & a plan to move forward. To give you a medical perspective for my mental stability, I was recently prescribed mirtazapine for the duration of divorce proceedings, in conjunction with duloxetine I’ve been taking for years, for all the medically inclined family & friends reading this. So, I don’t feel much at this time; like feeling numb overall. I look forward to getting this nightmare over-with soon & restart again with the time I have left.

I hope and pray all of you are stable and doing well; so, if you cannot help financially, I truly understand, but at least say a short prayer. When this is over & I get re-established, don’t hesitate to ask for help & I will do what I can. Thank you for your time…