For 3 decades I was abused by my Judge father, and Judicial Executive Assistant mother. I was forced into silence my entire life because my parents are powerful and extremely well connected, and constantly threatened my safety and to render me homeless and more to keep me silent and compliant to protect their careers and reputations. I was repeatedly told that I would lose everything — my safety, my stability, my ability to survive.

So I stayed silent. I endured. I survived the only way I knew how.

Coming out about the abuse has been dangerous and come at great personal cost, and is painful and humiliating. But the abuse also destroyed my life — and rendered me disabled & chronically ill, so I am now too ill to work, or afford medical care, or housing.

I was financially and medically controlled for so long so that I could never finish my degree and barely have a job history.

I was never meant to have a way out. My entire life was structured so that I would remain dependent, isolated, and silent.

My brother didn’t survive what the abuse did to him.

Coming forward has been dangerous, humiliating, and terrifying. But staying silent was slowly killing me. I have already tried VERY very hard to survive all on my own for years, and I can not do it anymore. My body heart and mind have endured way too much. I’ve already looked into the charities in Nevada and there are barely any resources, and none that can help me, especially not with such a complex situation.

I have pushed myself far beyond what my body and mind can sustain. I have pushed myself way past every limit for far too long. I am now beyond completely burnt out physically and emotionally from surviving the abuse, the grief, and from fighting alone for so long just to stay alive in this world.

I cannot do this alone anymore.

Right now, I urgently need help to survive and to get to safety.

I am in Las Vegas, and the heat is becoming dangerous. I do not have stable housing, and I do not have the financial ability to relocate on my own. Las Vegas summers reach 120 degrees, and surviving without housing here is impossible.

I NEED to get OUT of Nevada very fast and get somewhere I can finally be safe, have access to better resources, and begin addressing decades of medical neglect and trauma.

I need help covering basic survival — food, gas, and a safe place to stay right now — and my first goal is that I need to raise enough to purchase a reliable used car or van so I can leave as quickly as possible. I also need to afford insurance, registration, and make sure whatever I buy won’t break down and leave me stranded and worse off than before. I’m trying to do whatever I can to create the smallest possible foundation of stability so I can at least stop living minute-to-minute in crisis mode.

My parents never intended for me to escape, so I was never taught how to live independently. I’ve been learning everything from scratch while trying to navigate chronic illness, trauma, homelessness, extreme exhaustion and much more.

I need your help so I have the chance to heal. For the chance to finally begin my life after losing 30 years of it — my entire youth, all my opportunities, my dreams, my brother, my little siblings, my dogs, and everything I owned to escape the abuse.

I know I have purpose. I know I am meant to do more than just survive. I want to help others someday the way I desperately need help right now. But before I can become that person, I need support to get to safety, to gain stability, and to rebuild.

Asking publicly and telling my life story is one of the hardest and most vulnerable things I have ever had to do. I was trained my entire life to stay silent and have no needs. But no one is meant to survive alone.

I’m finally speaking out on TT @sarahssolo about the abuse me & my brother suffered if you want more of my story, but I need money *urgently* now that I’m homeless, so that I can eat, and try to take care of myself, but I need to raise enough money to buy a used car or van to live in, and raise enough to relocate to safety.

My brother died from what the abuse did to him, and his lack of access to community to help.

After a lifetime of fear and being forced into silence — I have the gift of being able to ask the entire world for help.

It’s painful to have to unveil all of the abuse I always had to hide, so PLEASE show me I matter & am heard and loved — & help keep me alive so I don’t have to face the same horrendous fate.

If you are able to donate or share, you are not just giving money — you are helping keep me alive, helping me reach safety, and giving me a real chance at healing and rebuilding.

I hope you can help me get to safety, and I am deeply eternally grateful to anyone who can help me along that path.

With deep gratitude,


Sarah