Urgent for my sons Gender Affirming Care & housing.

***July 2, 2025*** please forgive the million typos..I am legally blind and can't type this story without tears. I tried my best.

We have been in Colorado 6 mos. In that time we have gotten all our services moved here, met a lot of amazing people, and we have definitely found our tribe.

We do however remain unhoused. While we do have a housing voucher, they are wildly hard to actually use. Due to my health and disabilities, and my sons autism, our options for places shrinks more. We are currently living at a mission, in a single room. We needed some support while I recover and then we can receive help finding a home.

That said, I'm not feeling super confident my son's mental health will hold out very long having to share a room with both me and his sibling. He's peerminatly overstimulated.

To make matters harder, no matter what, each family can only have two service/ESA animals. So Toast (mine) and Gremlin (18 yr olds) are with us, but Pinky, Smokey, Mello and Mocha are together with a lovely foster.

My son is internalizing the confusion they must be having and sadness missing us, and Toast (gremlin doesn't like other cats and makes it well known.) Toast is a little depressed right now too, she thinks those kittens (2 yrs old, but they will always be the kittens) are her sons and daughters. Sigh...

I'm awaiting my ssdi back pay, and still trying to get Texas Attorney General to actually honor the court order for my held child support (unpaid child support for kids in my care for 7 yrs before I found a pro bono attorney in Texas to get that stopped. I was only able to get Texas to freeze the payment before that, which still garnished my wages, but held them awaiting a judges orders what to do with the money. They've had the judges signed order since 2022. But here we are. The attorney is a judge now and Texas AG still ignoring this order. The father s wages never got garnished eitwhr. So this has been all me this whole time. No father or family, just me. And it has broken me physically. Working three jobs and homeschooling special needs kids can do that. They are all 18 now, so apparently Texas just doesn't care about that.

So anyways, SSI says my back pay will come part in sep and part next March. I need to find some land and plop a trailer or a couple tiny houses on it as this housing voucher thing isn't seeming to be a viable option.

I have to raise funds to just buy land for my kids. We plan to do some minor homesteading and have some chickens, bees, goats and grow some of our food. I feel this will serve my children well teaching them sir jval skills and providing a way for them to learn ways to care for themselves in the environment that's better suited to their developmental and mental health needs.leaenkg bro farm will give them a way to earn an income, feed themselves, and give back to their community. Cus ya know AUTISTIC PEOPLE DO WORK AND PAY TAXES. :-)

They have been through so much in their young lives, and they are not going to heal, and get better living in a refurbished hotel room now mission, for the next year waiting for that back pay.

He's already announced his refusal to eat the last many months isn't for any reason other that he's hoping he'll just die. We have come though sooo much to get here, I can't lose him now.

We did alllllll this to save him. I'm so scared well lose him before we even lose me to my health issues. The father still isn't participating in their lives. I'm all they got and I'm not much atm... We still need our village... This stress keeps triggering my conditions to flare up and I'm never gonna get better, worrying about the kids being okay and ready to face life without me, one day. Hopefully no time soon. But you see my sense of urgency in getting them a home.

Also, my sons ESA is one of the ones in foster right now. He chose to have her stay with her siblings feelings that would give her more peace then being with just us/him. He out her best interest over his. As a mom I'm both proud of him for not being selfish, and terrified, cuz I need him to care about himself more. But he's not doing okay away from her. He worries mine and his siblings ESAs that are her siblings, will forget us all or hate us when we finally bring them back to us.

I feel like I can't win no matter what, and alllllll I want is a stable life for my kids to grow. They still need so much ABA, finish school, job training, they want to work, they want to be like other 18 and 20 yr olds, living life... But all they can do right now is reluctantly survive day to day. Having some independence and learning to adult will help them blossom in ways they can't even imagine. But I can..incan see it. I know it's in them. Deep down in their toes. I just need help getting the environment they need so they can thrive for the first time in their lives. Right now, they are fully shut down and I don't see that changing here.

Help a mama out... The village is all we have. And I promise, it will not be a waited effort. We don't plan to just use this opportunity to help out selves. The long term goal of for that land to expand, and have a lotta little cabins/tiny homes. We plan to be able to invite other displaced/rejected/healing LGBTQIA people and families that need a sanctuary. We will of course continue our animal rescuing once able and I feel this little community we want to grow will be something special. But we have to help ourselves first, before we can help others. We aren't just here on this earth to survive only, we are hear to thrive, give back, and help each other grow. Every dollar that's been or will be donated, gets us closer to that end goal too.

Why did I up the GFM from goal?

I am wanting to use it to get us into a stable home a little quicker than next March. I need surgery for some health stuff. My son needs his gender affirming care/surgery or I fear nether of us will still be here by next March. Leaving my 18 yr old with debilitating social anxiety that is never far from my side, alone in the world, just them. Dear God ... I can't do that to them. Please help anyways you're able. Mama bear can't take this much more.

***update 3/28/2025***

We really appreciate everyone helping us flee Florida to Colorado.

We have been here almost two months in the temp rental. Several of my conditions flared up bad, once the adrenaline rush form this move wore off, plus altitude sickness is still kicking my tush. My asthma has kicked in bad. Anyways, the kids are okay. Just uneasy in a temp house (it's beautiful, safe, and fine, just not ours kwim.?) The cats have managed like champs. They didn't complain on the four day drive, in hotels, and were comfortable in the temp house as soon as we opened their cages. We brought all their cats toys, trees etc from storage and they are super happy.

Colorado has shown to be far more affordable than Florida. Some folks tried to warn me how expensive it'll be in a blue state. With my child's life on the line, who cares? Well it's not, my grocery $ goes way further here and rent is better or th same. So if you're in our shoes, don't be afraid to go for it. Better quality of life IS worth it.

We are making progress with getting our housing voucher ported, hoping I will have that all squared away the s month.

SSI finally kicked in, it's the absolute min possible as I was a stay at home mom for most of my adult life then as my career got going, disability. So here we are. Once the housing voucher becomes available, and we gather the funds to move into the permanent house, things will be great for our family.

Right now we need $2150 to pay April rent for the temp house.

We will likely need $50O0 or so for move in, deposits, moving truck etc. If we end up with more than needed for the move, the money will be saved towards my sons gender affirming care, and name/gender marker changes. Which was the entire purpose of this move.

Anything is super appreciated. Please share this fundraiser link as much as you're able. I'm trying real hard to do what's best for my babies from a very humbling place of having to ask for help vs figure it out on my own. This is too big for one person, so I thank you again for your support.

Hello, I am the mother of two young adult kids that identify within the trans community as well as being neurodivergent.

Due to the results of the election, being in a red state (Florida) is more dangerous than ever for my kids (17 and 20). We have applied with a few groups to help individuals and families escape red states to sanctuary states. We have not received confirmation of assistance as of this posting.

Due to our family makeup, we cannot rely on any one source to help us. Three adults and six emotional support cats is a big task to move states with. The fact that I am disabled and unable to work does not help either.

We need to reach out to our broader internet community to ask for help. We need to move prior to February 1st as that is when our lease ends. We do not want to be trapped here another year under an administration that's been so openly hostile to the trans community. My kids' mental health is hanging on by a thread as it is living in Florida. This really is an urgent matter and we appreciate any assistance in this matter.

Any funds raised here will be used for packing supplies, a moving truck, storage, first and last month's rent, deposits, any hotels needed while establishing a residence, food, winter clothes, etc.

Thank you from Stormy, Dakotah, Moon, and kitties.