Hi, my name is Kevin Bailey and my wife Jan, my best friend, my baby,my love of 40 years passed away in my arms at home in bed Thursday, January 16th 2025.

Jan left our son's Sean and Tony and our daughter Stephanie along with her older brother Mike and his wife Sue.

It was her wish to pass at home and not a nursing facility. She was fighting with everything she had left to stay alive until I told her it was okay and we were fine, just go see your mom and dad. After that she relaxed and took her last breaths. I lost my baby. (What she liked me to call her)

I took care of her for the last 3 years of her life just as she wanted.

We were and I still am living on social security which barely paid the rent and utilities.

We have no family left except our children and her brother and they are struggling to pay their bills as well. I had borrowed from our son to buy an oxygen concentrator for her a couple of years ago and haven't even been able to pay him back for that. The cost of pull-ups, bed pads, medicine not covered by Medicare and protein shakes used up all the savings we had and we relied on Medicare and hospice to cover her bed pads and pull ups for the last week of her life.

I'm still crying every time I think of her and as I'm writing this so if I don't sound right it's because I'm not quite able to talk about it yet.

I am doing this for the first time in my life so I'm not sure what I'm doing except to just ask for help with her cremation. I tried the salvation army and everyone who would normally be able to help but they are all out of funds and they aren't able to help at this time.

She passed away in Kansas City Kansas and I had to send her to the Golden gate funeral home in Kansas City Missouri because they were the only ones in town who would come and pick up her body without payment upfront. It got to the point I thought I was never going to find someone to come and get her but they were very nice and came a couple of hours after the hospice nurse found them for me.

I can't get a death certificate or anything until the funeral home gets paid for their services so I am kind of caught with nowhere to turn.

We can't even get the $255 social security gives as a death benefit until we pay the funeral home and get proof of death.

I have never asked for help with anything before but I don't know what else to do.

This happened so unexpectedly sudden that I didn't even have a day to try to prepare.

I am asking, no pleading for just enough to cover the cremation and funeral expenses and enough for a copy of the death certificate.

I just want to get my baby's ashes, they say if I don't pick them up within 30 days they dispose of them. I don't know what that means but I just want to keep her ashes close to me for the rest of my days.

I didn't realize cremation had gone up so much in the past few years.

I just hope someone with the means to help reads this and responds. I don't know where else to turn.

Thank you very much and maybe some day I can return the favor.

Kevin Bailey