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Hi everyone, my name is Jennifer Justus Bomar. It is with a heavy heart and a more than petrified mind that I'm sharing my story. My husband was born with a highly genetic kidney disease and got to the point where he needed a lifesaving kidney transplant. We did peritoneal dialysis at home for 2 years. I tried to donate a kidney to him and even though we were a PERFECT match, my kidney function was not high enough to donate. (1st kick in the gut) We finally got the call on 12/1/2021 that they had a kidney for him. Our Christmas wish had came true! He had problems from the beginning. Upon arrival, he was immediately admitted to the ICU due to extremely high Potassium. They put in a hemo dialysis line and did that for about 9 hours while the kidney was put on ice. Finally, the Potassium came down enough for him to go to the OR. He got the kidney transplant and it was working great! However, they could not get his blood pressure under control, so he was in ICU for 12 days. We finally made it to the floor where he improved quickly. We came home late on Thursday night, 12/16. He felt great all weekend, said he felt 20 years younger! We were so excited about our future and had already started making plans on all the things we were going to do. We went to his first follow up on that Monday morning. He was up at 5AM dancing in the kitchen while cooking breakfast. His Potassium had crept up a little, but they told us to come home and just take medication. We did, we had a great lunch and piddled in the yard. He was watching football in the living room and I went to take a nap (been up since 5am and had to head back to hospital next AM.)We live about 2 hours from the hospital. I woke up and panicked, knowing it was time for his meds, because it's ALOT after a transplant. I opened the bedroom door and I will not go into detail, but I found him dead in the living room! He was already cold, but I tried CPR to no avail. His Potassium had gone up and his heart stopped. I had to stop working 2 years ago when he became so ill because he couldn't be alone and needed help with the daily dialysis. We finally got him on disability, which is how we survived. Obviously, this has now stopped and I have no income coming in. I do not receive any spousal benefits because I'm only 41 and you have to be over 60 or have kids. I am in such a desperate situation. I'm trying to prepare myself to try and go back to work. But, I was just hospitalized for 2 weeks due to my mental health and my body was literally shutting down due to the intense grief. Im so much stronger mentally now and I'm getting physically stronger every day! My mother has helped me as much as she could, but is tapped out. And, I'm completely lost! I have our home on the market to sell to try and get some money. But, the money will be used for the mortgage, utility bills, food, gas, etc...We now need to purchase him a headstone. I would never reach out to the world with this, but I just don't know how to make it anymore. Anything is so very appreciated. It would mean more than you could ever know! Thank you all so much for reading my story and I sincerely hope none of you ever find yourself in this situation.