Hi all

My dad passed away unexpectedly on July 20. Was a shock to hear.

this is hard because my father and I had a tough relationship. He left one day when I was 15 from home and in 34 years I can count on both hands how many times I saw him after that. I saw him more this past year than I did in 34 years. I only had a relationship with him because I reached out to him and through the years we would snail mail (letters via usps.) I’d send him birthday gifts because he truly had no one else. My parents divorced at 15.

I didn’t know where he lived -only had a PO Box to mail him letters/gifts.

last year he fell in his apartment. He lived alone. His mind was slowly going (dementia) and he was placed in a residential facility and that is how I ended up being able to visit him more often. He didn’t really know who I was but gave me comfort to know I could visit and know where he was and was being taken care of. He would eventually ask if I was his disgusted and we’d talk and I’d tell him about the grandchildren he had. Within 5 mins he would ask who I was and why I was there. he did get to meet my kiddos for the first time ever so that was nice. He appeared medically fine and healthy minus the dementia. So it was of great shock to hear he passed away so suddenly. My mom and I have had to jump through hoops to get info, to get things going for him.

I am humbly asking for any type of help even if it’s $1 as he left no instructions and no accommodations. So my mom and I are doing this because he was a human being, my dad at the end of the day who I did love and we could not fathom him being taken over by the state and have no idea what they would do with him. He wasn’t a bad person, just lost his way with his family, his children but I want to bury him hopefully in Fairfield so he has a final resting place.

my mom was forced to retire and she honestly doesn’t have extra funds for him. But she wants him to have a place to rest. I think she’s an amazing woman for doing this and stepping up after all he did to her. And I wish I could just go pay for a funeral but that isn’t in the cards either so any help would be appreciated.

my mom is a very humble and proud woman and did not want me to set this up (she told me no don’t do it) but I in good conscious cannot let her struggle trying to do this. She’s on a fixed income.

thank you all.