Way behind on bills

We are a family that got way behind.  I (dad) have suffered with depression for most of my adult life.  I was demoted at my job around April. Made my depression worse.  Asked for fmla.  Denied.  Had to go to the top of the food chain at the company to have the leave approved.  Short term disability was denied.  I was not suicidal or depressed enough.  Honestly not sure which.  Came back to a promise of a location that was staffed with plenty of all types of crew amd managememt. They would accommodate my 2x a week therapy.  I am not very smart so i got nothing in writing. The place had management, except the people that i could count on were being shipped off to other locations. Fast forward to the early July flood. We rent from a gentleman who lives in AZ.  Basement flooded. Had action been taken quickly, could have been saved. He showed up 10 days later to inspect and found black mold and a 10k estimate to fix. The basement was my mother's "apartment."  It worked for everyone. Basement was finished, 3/4 of a bathroom and she was the live in nanny as my wife and I work 50 + hours a week. Landlord decided to sell.  Luckily, found a house pretty quickly through a facebook friend/realtor.  The added stress was not helping my depression.  I had been seeing my therapist 2 times a week.  My boss needed help at another location. None of my people would help, so I was the one stuck doing it. This is also when my managers started calling in sick.  A lot.  I was working many open to closes, leaving mom to do the lion's share of the work. She hurt her back during one of her overachieving days, and I placed the blame squarely on my own shoulders. Depression worsens. Starting to make my time off for fmla seem like club med.  I planned to take a week off to move and unpack. However, i had to beg and plead to take the one day off, Saturday, when I was actually going to have any help that i had arranged weeks ago.  My performance at work suffered. I asked to demote to a much lower position. I didn't ask the correct person "permission" so I quit.  I say I was fired. Filed unemployment. Denied. Appealed with an $800 attorney that I have not payed yet.  Denied.  Needless to say, depression worsens  there was a 4 day stretch where I was out of 1 of my anti depressants.  Read about the side effects of stopping those cold turkey  had them. All. Luckily had a loving and supportive wife and a mother to keep an eye on me and some xanax to dull my emotions so i would not experience the worst side effect.  Myself, several attorneys, friends and family assumed that unemployment benefits would be a slam dunk.  Had we recieved those, would not be in this situation.  Our 2nd car is being voluntarily repossessed tomorrow.  Can't make the payments. I am working on filing disability but that takes forever.  If we were caught up on bills, we could scrape by.  Sorry to tell such a long story, but thanks for reading it, and God bless you all, whether you can donate a dollar or a prayer.

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Robert Perry 
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Jane V. Perry 
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