Sue Is Leaving Toxic Housing, Needs Healthcare!!

tldr: Adult trans woman with unmedicated narcolepsy, etc seeking to relocate from an unhealthy living situation to a city with more resources and community.

Hi, my name is Sue, and I'm a trans woman in her early 30s, and an amateur sound artist. I've had depression and adhd since childhood, which make basic functioning and holding employment difficult when untreated. I also have narcolepsy (without cataplexy, to be precise), which affects me in a number of ways, chiefly keeping me from safely driving a car. I have previously been medicated somewhat successfully for this condition.

My cognitive issues were exacerbated across the board after a concussion sustained from domestic abuse around 10 years ago.

Towards the end of 2021 I moved from Ohio to the New England area to be with my then-boyfriend of about two years, based on the premise of support that was never provided. My roommate and longtime best friend (a trans woman with her own health issues), moved alongside me.

Almost immediately, I began to face hostility, transphobic harassment and eventual physical threats with a weapon from my boyfriend's mother, with whom we lived and paid rent to. In the following year and change I would face transphobic and sexual harassment from multiple people in my boyfriend's community, as well as other, intimate abusive and traumatic events I'll decline to detail. I am currently dealing with ongoing cyberstalking from one of these persons.

Additionally, due to discrimination, incompetence, good old-fashioned bureaucratic roadblocks, and a general lack of support, I have not been properly medicated since I left Ohio, although I have sought it. I have not had my depression and adhd meds since December. I have not had my narcolepsy meds since I moved. I have a dwindling supply of my hormone replacement therapy, and I have not had routine bloodwork for HRT done since I moved.

All of this, combined with other stressors that have left me demoralized and devalued, means I have been unemployed all the while. I've burned through my savings and largely gotten by on selling my possessions, odd jobs, and favors. While I have no college education or useful skills, having a routine and a job has benefitted my health in the past. I simply have not been stable enough to find employment.

My boyfriend and I have since broken up, though we still live together on shaky terms. I sleep on a couch in a room with no door or privacy (pictured), which others have and use access to at all hours. I am completely broke with limited local support and no opportunities, and little sense of safety or security. I cannot pay my bills, and feel the walls are closing in.

My current rental agreement here, living with my ex in New England, is fast approaching. My roommate and I are trying to raise the money to move to a major metropolitan area with viable public transit (as neither of us can drive) and a more active and supportive local trans community. I'm asking for any help you can spare to defray the logistical cost of moving, as well as my living costs during the time it takes me to get settled, find doctors, etc.

I'm working with trans friends in my target cities to try and get the ball rolling ahead of time, and doing everything I can with my limited resources and energy. I have moved so many times, and had to restart my life from scratch so many times, and I just want a bit of a safety net so I can get myself back to the point of relative health and stability I had gotten myself to three years ago.

There are so many trans people suffering right now, and I'm not more deserving of your assistance than any other. Still, I have to advocate for myself, and I'm fearing I'm at the end of my rope. Thanks for reading.

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About the initial target goal:

$1000 will cover the cost of moving from my current location to my prospective cities, as well as the temporary storage of my personal effects if needed.

The approximate (lowballed) total of my expenses between now and when my current rental agreement expires is $1000.

I realize this is a lot to ask for at bare minimum, and I thank you for your time. Please understand I am still offloading posessions and exploring other resources in order to fund my moving forward.

Please note that the funds raised from this are going to my roommate's bank account, for various logistical reasons. We have been friends since we were young children and she has been through me in all of this, and is trustworthy and supportive.

Thank you.