Stacey's Fight
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Hello everyone. My name is Stacey, I'm a busy working mom. Some of you may know me from the time I spend at the disc golf course, some of you may know me through my job at Napa Auto Parts, and some of you may have stumbled accross this page by accident or because you have seen it on Facebook. Regardless, I would like to thank you for taking the time to help with my fight, whether it be by making a donation or simply sharing this page to help get awarness out there.
My daughter is a smart, beautiful, loving, kind young lady and I would love nothing more than to spend as much time with her as possible, while she maintains the relationship between her father and herself.
Unfortunately, her father and I have been in an ongoing custody battle since 2009. You see her father has a brain injury due to a failed suicide attempt in 2007, prior to the injury he was not a part of our lives, not that I didn't wish every day that he would be there to support our little girl and be her daddy. He was in a terrible place in his life, and I understand why he made the choices he did. After his injury his mother placed the blame on me, literally calling me and saying "You finally did it, you pushed him over the edge", however she now claims that this was not self inflicted, that someone else did it (there are numerous police and doctors reports stating otherwise). His mother took his injury and used it to her advantage, she demanded that I take my then 2 year old to the hospital to see him, and when I refused (she did not know him, and I did not think it was appropriate for her to meet him in the state he was in) my ex's mother took me to court. I had a small win, because the judge agreed it was not appropriate, however it was decided that we would re-visit this when the father was out of the hospital. After almost a full year in hospital, my ex was released and went to live with his mother. Of course we were back in court shortly after, and without any sort of assesments my ex was granted 2 hours of supervised visits every 2 weeks. After these visits my daughter would be emotionally distraught, but there was nothing I could do I had to follow the court order. In late 2008 my parents moved to Ontario, and in February of 2009 I took my daughter to visit them. Things were getting more toxic between my ex, his mother, and myself, and in a moment of fight or flight, I chose that we were going to stay in Ontario because I needed the emotional support of my parents and other family. I phoned my ex to tell him, and offered more than generous access, telling him that I would bring our daughter back for visits with him, as he can not fly due to the injury. This is when things really got bad, his mother told me that I better watch out and that she was getting the police involved, I was so naive and young that I really didn't think this would go any further and if it did that I would be given an opportunity by the courts to return to BC. This was not the case. In April of 2009, the police turned up at my door with an order stating that my daughters father now had full custody and gaurdianship and that her grandmother was waiting at an undisclosed location to take my daughter. That was the worst day of my life, yet I was able to hold myself together because I did not want my daughter to be afraid. I told her that she was going on a trip with her grandma, and that I would see her soon. I packed her a bag with extra clothes and her favorite stuffed dog, I kissed her, I told her I loved her, and she told me she was going to be brave. I was on a plane back to BC within hours of this happening, I made an emergency application to the courts, but looked like a babbling fool becuase I was in such emotional distress and was so confused as to how the courts could allow this to happen.
It has been 8 years since this all began, I was lucky enough that for the last 7 of those I was getting to see my sweet little girl every other weekend, however as my daughter is getting older she is requesting more time with me. I filed an application with courts requesting more time and that it be ordered that my daughter was able to call me as all telepohne access was cut off in the begining. Because of my request for more time, my ex and his mother requested that a section 211 (psychological assesment of all parties involved) be prepared. I did not have the financial means to pay for this, and they requested that a specific doctor do the report. The judge ordered that if they paid for it, they could have the doctor of their choice. In total they paid $17,000 to the doctor, of course this report he wrote came back completely biased, and upon doing some research on this doctor it seems that this is a common practice for him. Whoever pays more gets the favorable report. In his report he suggested that not only should I have less access, but that all family (including my ex's father and his family) should have no access to this young lady that we all love and adore. The report is based on information told to him by other professionals that my ex and his mother pay. In the report critisim is given to any one who supports me and the people with whom he spoke to on my behalf were basically liars. Judgement has been made on my character by people who have honestly never met me or bothered to contact me. While I accept that there are issues when my daughter is at her fathers house, I have not been given the opportunity to be part of the solution because of my limited access not only to my daughter, but to these professionals.
At our last court hearing, on July 24th, this report was being discussed. While my ex and his mother tried to have all of my access taken away, the judge would not do that, I could tell that he did not want to follow the recomendations of this report, but because there was nothing else for him to go on, he did not have a choice. As of the 24th my access to my daughter has now been limited to every Saturday from 1-6pm. I am devasted, and I know that my daughter is going to be devasted as well.
I need to raise these funds so that I can pay for a rebuttle report, and to help cover legal fees. When this is over any funds that are left will be donated to help other mothers and father that have been put in these horrible situations.
I know that this is unbelievable, and that if you've read this far you must think I'm leaving out details, because it doesn't make sense that the courts would take a child away from a perfectly wonderful mom. But I am telling the truth, this is my unbelievable life and I need all the help I can get to make this situation right for my daughter.
My daughter is a smart, beautiful, loving, kind young lady and I would love nothing more than to spend as much time with her as possible, while she maintains the relationship between her father and herself.
Unfortunately, her father and I have been in an ongoing custody battle since 2009. You see her father has a brain injury due to a failed suicide attempt in 2007, prior to the injury he was not a part of our lives, not that I didn't wish every day that he would be there to support our little girl and be her daddy. He was in a terrible place in his life, and I understand why he made the choices he did. After his injury his mother placed the blame on me, literally calling me and saying "You finally did it, you pushed him over the edge", however she now claims that this was not self inflicted, that someone else did it (there are numerous police and doctors reports stating otherwise). His mother took his injury and used it to her advantage, she demanded that I take my then 2 year old to the hospital to see him, and when I refused (she did not know him, and I did not think it was appropriate for her to meet him in the state he was in) my ex's mother took me to court. I had a small win, because the judge agreed it was not appropriate, however it was decided that we would re-visit this when the father was out of the hospital. After almost a full year in hospital, my ex was released and went to live with his mother. Of course we were back in court shortly after, and without any sort of assesments my ex was granted 2 hours of supervised visits every 2 weeks. After these visits my daughter would be emotionally distraught, but there was nothing I could do I had to follow the court order. In late 2008 my parents moved to Ontario, and in February of 2009 I took my daughter to visit them. Things were getting more toxic between my ex, his mother, and myself, and in a moment of fight or flight, I chose that we were going to stay in Ontario because I needed the emotional support of my parents and other family. I phoned my ex to tell him, and offered more than generous access, telling him that I would bring our daughter back for visits with him, as he can not fly due to the injury. This is when things really got bad, his mother told me that I better watch out and that she was getting the police involved, I was so naive and young that I really didn't think this would go any further and if it did that I would be given an opportunity by the courts to return to BC. This was not the case. In April of 2009, the police turned up at my door with an order stating that my daughters father now had full custody and gaurdianship and that her grandmother was waiting at an undisclosed location to take my daughter. That was the worst day of my life, yet I was able to hold myself together because I did not want my daughter to be afraid. I told her that she was going on a trip with her grandma, and that I would see her soon. I packed her a bag with extra clothes and her favorite stuffed dog, I kissed her, I told her I loved her, and she told me she was going to be brave. I was on a plane back to BC within hours of this happening, I made an emergency application to the courts, but looked like a babbling fool becuase I was in such emotional distress and was so confused as to how the courts could allow this to happen.
It has been 8 years since this all began, I was lucky enough that for the last 7 of those I was getting to see my sweet little girl every other weekend, however as my daughter is getting older she is requesting more time with me. I filed an application with courts requesting more time and that it be ordered that my daughter was able to call me as all telepohne access was cut off in the begining. Because of my request for more time, my ex and his mother requested that a section 211 (psychological assesment of all parties involved) be prepared. I did not have the financial means to pay for this, and they requested that a specific doctor do the report. The judge ordered that if they paid for it, they could have the doctor of their choice. In total they paid $17,000 to the doctor, of course this report he wrote came back completely biased, and upon doing some research on this doctor it seems that this is a common practice for him. Whoever pays more gets the favorable report. In his report he suggested that not only should I have less access, but that all family (including my ex's father and his family) should have no access to this young lady that we all love and adore. The report is based on information told to him by other professionals that my ex and his mother pay. In the report critisim is given to any one who supports me and the people with whom he spoke to on my behalf were basically liars. Judgement has been made on my character by people who have honestly never met me or bothered to contact me. While I accept that there are issues when my daughter is at her fathers house, I have not been given the opportunity to be part of the solution because of my limited access not only to my daughter, but to these professionals.
At our last court hearing, on July 24th, this report was being discussed. While my ex and his mother tried to have all of my access taken away, the judge would not do that, I could tell that he did not want to follow the recomendations of this report, but because there was nothing else for him to go on, he did not have a choice. As of the 24th my access to my daughter has now been limited to every Saturday from 1-6pm. I am devasted, and I know that my daughter is going to be devasted as well.
I need to raise these funds so that I can pay for a rebuttle report, and to help cover legal fees. When this is over any funds that are left will be donated to help other mothers and father that have been put in these horrible situations.
I know that this is unbelievable, and that if you've read this far you must think I'm leaving out details, because it doesn't make sense that the courts would take a child away from a perfectly wonderful mom. But I am telling the truth, this is my unbelievable life and I need all the help I can get to make this situation right for my daughter.
Organizer
Stacey Louise McLachlan
Organizer
Port Coquitlam, BC