"After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it.”
-Bessel Van Der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score
Lauren has friends, and family, and a life; she knows she does. But she can’t quite seem to reach them. Something’s happened, and she can’t quite say; she keeps trying to push through, but the more she tries to move forward the more she gets stuck in the past.
The Wedding is about how hard it can be to find your voice, when everyone believes one truth and you know another. It’s about isolation, and connectivity; about what matters, and what holds us back. It is a story of resilience, of being loved and being lost.
Key issues of the film include: Isolation • Eating disorders • Depression • Dissociation • Abuse • PTSD • Re-integration
Our goal is to give voice to these issues; to spark conversation and compassion; to shine a light on the way we listen to our friends, to what they do and do not say. This is a story worthy of support. Our team consists mostly of women, each of whom have experienced one or more key issues of the film. In order to convey it with authenticity and respect, we need your help. We are aiming to film Covid-willing late 2020/early 2021 . Funds will go towards equipment, cast, crew, accommodation, food, and transport. We aim to create a well supported working environment and produce a film of industry standard. As female artists, we feel it’s our duty to use our voices to share this story, especially for those who might feel voiceless. It is extremely challenging for female artists in any creative medium to source funding; your donation would be much appreciated. We all start from somewhere.
We have teamed up with the incredibly talented Dublin-based designer Aidan Lynch who has created the image below especially for our film:
Here a few more of his pieces - check out more on his Instagram (link below)
After reading the script for The Wedding, founder of The Shona Project Tammy Darcy writes:
“We see so many girls and young women struggle to find their place in the world. We are bombarded with a multitude of messages every day telling us who and what we should be, setting an impossibly high standard. Trying to find validation, we shape ourselves into a version of what we believe others expect of us.
Wouldn’t the world be a beautiful place if us girls celebrated and encouraged each other, instead of judging and pushing away those who we don’t fully understand or identify with? Life can be tough, but if we build strong communities of women supporting women, we can all not just survive, but thrive.
The Wedding deserves support, for all these reasons.”
According to Beth Dalbey at Patch, bullying is
"most common among middle class girls among whom a high value is placed on being 'nice' and non-aggressive.”
And that’s just the beginning; when bullying becomes the norm, it’s easier to start accepting being treated less-than on other levels. According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline,
"43% of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors including physical, sexual, tech, verbal or controlling abuse.”
That’s just the ones that report. Many never do; many women never admit it to themselves, let alone their friends or family. It is shockingly common, and rarely talked about; as hard as it is to consider, the stats do say that if it doesn’t pertain to you, it does pertain to someone you know.
Please help us share this story
The Women of The Wedding
Fiona Stout – Writer/Co-Producer/Actor
Fiona graduated the LIR in 2017 with a BA in acting and has been making her own work since. JESSICA, her second play, premiered last year; SPLIT, her first play, was featured in NewVember in 2018. She last worked as an actor with Game Theory in MOOP for Dublin Fringe 2019. This is her first short film.
Lucy Johnson – Actor
Lucy graduated from The Lir Academy in 2017. She is a classically trained actress and stunt performer. Her most recent work to date has been on Season 6 of History Channel’s TV show Vikings and working with Channel 4, ITV and an independent production company as a presenter and fencing coach. She is also is a gymnast, pianist, harpist and classical singer.
Aoife Fitzpatrick – Actor
Aoife Fitzpatrick is an actress from Malahide, County Dublin. She has recently graduated from the Gaiety School of Acting. She was recently in the BBC series Dublin Murders by Element productions.
Lucy Jones – Actor
Lucy Jones has acted on stage in Joe O'Byrne's Strike, Enough and The History Of The World @ 3AM, in the Irish premiere of Shūji Terayama's La Marie Vison, and in Luke Collins's Ladies & Rogues, amongst many others. She has made her film debut in Ferdia MacAnna’s upcoming film DannyBoy and The Rain Company's film The Rollover.
Emma Dargan-Reid – Co-Producer/Actor
Emma Reid is an Australian actress recently graduated from The Lir Academy in Dublin, Ireland. Since graduating in 2019 she has starred in Ronan O’Leary’s feature film A Sunken Place and has played Duke Of York in Druid Theatre Company’s production of Richard The Third as part of the Lincoln Centre Theatre Festival in New York City.
Below are some links to a few organisations and articles that shed light on issues we are exploring, some of who offer avenues of support.
Women in Film and Television Ireland - https://wft.ie/
Image Artist: Aidan Lynch - Instagram https://instagram.com/aidanlynch96?igshid=1po417e67ud8p
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