On April 11th, 2025, we woke up and immediately rushed into Labor and Delivery for bleeding and my water being broken which turned into a pregnancy complication that would soon lead to the early delivery of our 20 week old baby girl, Aspen Noelle Merry. Nothing could have prepared us for this. It was there that we found out I had cervical insufficiency which led to Aspen descending into the birthing canal and there was nothing we could do to stop it from happening.

We got to enjoy her final kicks in my belly and hold onto the final moments of pregnancy. After the worst pain I’ve ever been in physically and mentally, she came into the world with a beautiful heartbeat at 6:54pm. 10 inches long, 6.5 ounces and the sweetest face we could ever imagine. She had all of her beautiful features already, (including her tiny little feet pictured above) and we held each other and her until it was time to say goodbye.

My placenta did not come out with delivery so the following day I underwent a procedure to have it removed in the OR which was successful. We are home now but mentally no where near ok. We are facing new emotional bumps in the road as my milk has come in and the recovery process of a vaginal delivery is a constant reminder that we went through the pain but did not get to come home with our sweet girl after all of that.

I am able to get disability for having a vaginal delivery but Anthony does not quality for any paid time off. We are hoping to get some assistance so he can stay home with me and recover mentally from the loss of our beautiful daughter.

With all of this, that same day we were signed into a new rental that was supposed to be where we would bring our sweet girl home to. But instead, we are now stuck with the cost of a new rental, medical bills, funeral home costs and trying to pay for Anthony to stay home for a couple of weeks.

We are not ones to ask for help, but him returning to work right now is not an option we want to think about. No amount of time will heal our hearts but hopefully a couple of weeks together as a family will help the process. Any amount is helpful and allows us more time to grieve and be with each other.

We also have our Venmo if that is preferred.

“its the Merrys” is how to find us or Anthony’s phone number.

We can’t thank anyone reading this enough to pray for us or help financially. Both are greatly appreciated.