The Koh Family
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The Story
Words written by Lyndsey and Jason
”we [recently] heard words no pregnant couple wants to hear. "Not compatible with life." Our precious, beautiful baby has acrania - a fatal condition where they are missing the top of their skull. If our baby makes it to full term, they will likely only live for minutes to hours.
Acrania is incredibly rare - the doctors called it an anomaly - and there's nothing we could have done to cause or prevent it.
To say we are grieving doesn't even begin to cover what we feel. Our hearts are shattered and broken. We pray for a miracle even as we mourn and prepare for the loss of our child still growing and active inside of me. The next six months are going to be long and hard.
It sounds trite to say we are leaning on God, but there is nothing trite about this journey. We are truly throwing ourselves into His arms even as Jason and I cling to each other. Barring a miracle, Jesus has chosen our sweet baby for early glory. And we praise His faithfulness that promises to never leave us alone in our grief. We may not be able to prepare our baby's nursery. But He is.
In the midst of deep sorrow, there is a strange mingling of joy. Our 1-year-old son Bennett has, of course, been a delightful blessing in our home during this time. Meanwhile, I've felt our baby's little flutters and we've enjoyed the feisty movements and kicks on the ultrasounds. We've seen our baby suck their thumb, stretch out as if just waking up from a good nap, and rest their arm over their face like a cutie lounger. Our doctors assure us that our baby is in absolutely no pain and will feel no pain when they are born. A sweet mercy.
We also found out the gender of our baby yesterday. We will announce the gender sometime later along with our baby's name.
Finally, several people have asked what we need. First, prayers. We believe prayer is a first resort, not a last resort. And we know God delights in our prayers - bold and broken they may be.
Also, we are craving community. We have found great encouragement in the texts, verses, songs, quotes, poems, and letters people have already sent us. And over the next several months, we want you all to continue rejoicing in our baby with us. Ask how the pregnancy is going! Have I felt any full kicks yet? Any third trimester growing pangs? We are so excited for what time we do have with this little one, and that makes this time of pregnancy even more special. We don't want people to feel like they can't ask about our baby or smile and be happy for our baby's life. And if we tear up as we talk, just hug us and love us. Our grief doesn't negate our joy or desire to celebrate our baby.
Finally, we just want to say thank you. For walking this road with us. For crying and laughing with us. For giving us grace and love and friendship. We can't do this alone and are so grateful for the support systems God has placed in our lives.
Although our baby has been labeled "not compatible with life," our little one's life is beautiful, valued, and deeply loved. And we are going to make sure our baby feels that love for every second they are in our arms.”
Our Purpose
We, as a family, decided to start this fund raiser with the request to help cover funeral costs, medical costs & other unforeseen expenses.
To The Prayer Warriors
Please go to the throne for Lyndsey and Jason in some specific ways
-Pray for stamina and God's grace over them as they must mourn their precious Gideon in the process of saying goodbye to him as soon as they say hello.
-Pray for an uneventful delivery and that they have Some time with Gideon in their arms before he goes home to the arms of Jesus.
- And pray for them as they go through the tough process of funeral arrangements and details of Gideon's burial up in Michigan
Words written by Lyndsey and Jason
”we [recently] heard words no pregnant couple wants to hear. "Not compatible with life." Our precious, beautiful baby has acrania - a fatal condition where they are missing the top of their skull. If our baby makes it to full term, they will likely only live for minutes to hours.
Acrania is incredibly rare - the doctors called it an anomaly - and there's nothing we could have done to cause or prevent it.
To say we are grieving doesn't even begin to cover what we feel. Our hearts are shattered and broken. We pray for a miracle even as we mourn and prepare for the loss of our child still growing and active inside of me. The next six months are going to be long and hard.
It sounds trite to say we are leaning on God, but there is nothing trite about this journey. We are truly throwing ourselves into His arms even as Jason and I cling to each other. Barring a miracle, Jesus has chosen our sweet baby for early glory. And we praise His faithfulness that promises to never leave us alone in our grief. We may not be able to prepare our baby's nursery. But He is.
In the midst of deep sorrow, there is a strange mingling of joy. Our 1-year-old son Bennett has, of course, been a delightful blessing in our home during this time. Meanwhile, I've felt our baby's little flutters and we've enjoyed the feisty movements and kicks on the ultrasounds. We've seen our baby suck their thumb, stretch out as if just waking up from a good nap, and rest their arm over their face like a cutie lounger. Our doctors assure us that our baby is in absolutely no pain and will feel no pain when they are born. A sweet mercy.
We also found out the gender of our baby yesterday. We will announce the gender sometime later along with our baby's name.
Finally, several people have asked what we need. First, prayers. We believe prayer is a first resort, not a last resort. And we know God delights in our prayers - bold and broken they may be.
Also, we are craving community. We have found great encouragement in the texts, verses, songs, quotes, poems, and letters people have already sent us. And over the next several months, we want you all to continue rejoicing in our baby with us. Ask how the pregnancy is going! Have I felt any full kicks yet? Any third trimester growing pangs? We are so excited for what time we do have with this little one, and that makes this time of pregnancy even more special. We don't want people to feel like they can't ask about our baby or smile and be happy for our baby's life. And if we tear up as we talk, just hug us and love us. Our grief doesn't negate our joy or desire to celebrate our baby.
Finally, we just want to say thank you. For walking this road with us. For crying and laughing with us. For giving us grace and love and friendship. We can't do this alone and are so grateful for the support systems God has placed in our lives.
Although our baby has been labeled "not compatible with life," our little one's life is beautiful, valued, and deeply loved. And we are going to make sure our baby feels that love for every second they are in our arms.”
Our Purpose
We, as a family, decided to start this fund raiser with the request to help cover funeral costs, medical costs & other unforeseen expenses.
To The Prayer Warriors
Please go to the throne for Lyndsey and Jason in some specific ways
-Pray for stamina and God's grace over them as they must mourn their precious Gideon in the process of saying goodbye to him as soon as they say hello.
-Pray for an uneventful delivery and that they have Some time with Gideon in their arms before he goes home to the arms of Jesus.
- And pray for them as they go through the tough process of funeral arrangements and details of Gideon's burial up in Michigan
Co-organizers (2)
Morgan Haynam
Organizer
Grand Rapids, MI
Lyndsey Koh
Beneficiary
Lyndsey Koh
Co-organizer