The Klover Family enduring hardship.

Hello everyone!

I want to start by saying how difficult this is to reach out for help during this trying time of our lives. This Chapter has been a doozy!

Klover Family Background -

Joe and I have been together since we first met in 7th grade at Oak Land Jr High in 2005! We are approaching 20 years together this May at the age of just 33 years old.

We had our first child Bella less than one month before becoming 2010 Stillwater Area High School graduates.

Fast forward four years and we welcomed our son Nolan into the world in 2014.

Since 2014-current I have listed just a few MAJOR changes in our lives that have crossed our paths.

In Feb 2020 Joe and I bought our first home just two weeks before the Covid pandemic hit. This depleted our savings account due to having no knowledge about available help during those times with the state. By May 2020 Joe lost his best friend since first grade very suddenly.

In April 2020 Bella was finally clinically diagnosed with Autism along with hoarding disorder and a ocd skin picking disorder. This was after years of me trying to advocate for her!

January 2021 I had Covid and started getting medical concerns all at once from past and present. This created my already severe mental health to spiral into a medical anxiety. Four years later and I’m still trying to figure out what going on with myself. This has caused medical bills to start piling up with no results currently. I have many more appointments to come and lots of testing still to due.

In 2022 after 18 years of dating Joe and I choose to get married because we earned the title and it was in the best interest for our children. Joe deserved to have custody rights of our children!

From 2020-2024 we unfortunately lost 5 amazing people very quickly. The most recent being his father in March 2023 and his grandma on April 2023. These two passings took a very large tool on us as a family whom already only has a few people in it. Plus it honestly still hurts just as much.

In August 2024 our son was also FINALLY clinically diagnosed with Autism, ADHD combined type and fine motor impairment.

This was after constant advocating and him being misdiagnosed by professionals. The misdiagnoses caused ill effects to him that require a lot out of me for his day to day life for the long haul.

Both Bella and Nolan are very dependent on me for help in their everyday lives.

During the last two years we went from two vehicles down to one due to issues out of our budget. By January 2024 we had a choice between what vehicle would be best to just pay and pull along as we had no other options. By July 2024 our only vehicle was officially deemed unsafe for the road and we no longer felt comfortable with the kids being in it for anything outside of a quick store run close to home.

We had no options, no resources… nothing.

This caused Nolan to have to stop his O.T. and not even start the Physical therapy he needed. It also delayed very important appointments for our Bella when it comes to our next topic.

We had pennies to our name and an unsafe vehicle.

We could not afford there safety to be at risk nor did we have the finance to be able to afford all the transportation costs.

As of current the kids are now homeschooling and thriving with that but it was a sacrifice I had to make. Those few hours I needed of peace to balance myself had to be given up but with great reason. A good education, safe environment and my children mental health was far too important over my own.

I can’t work due to how severe my mental health is due to my childhood and I’m undiagnosed (working on these currently) ADHD and autistic myself. I had it under control with therapy until the medical anxiety set in again with our most MAJOR turn in events with our daughter Bella this last 12 months.. In January 2025 our only vehicle had a catastrophic breakdown that ended it in the junk yard. Luckily my husband was safe when this happened and it didn’t end the way it could have. We had a single blessing when someone he works with offered to buy us a vehicle and we make payments to him. It was also an only option and depleted the little savings I had tried to build back up.

Needless to say we are drowning and can’t swim. We keep getting pushed back underwater on everything we try to do. No help. No direction. No place to turn to but the four of us.

On to our AMAZING 14 year old daughter Bella!!

The bravest child I have yet to know personally in my life.

Back in very late November 2023 she contracted Covid and was not recovering as well as the other times with her lung sound and cough. This ended up with us in the urgent care for a lung x-ray in January 2024. We wanted to be sure she was doing alright as any good parent would do. They said everything looked good and it’s just a virus so it needs a few more weeks. Well we waited the time and I’m not seeing much improvement. I choose to make an appointment with her primary doctor and that visit was the second week of February 2024. That was the month that changed our lives forever but especially hers. Her primary opened up the X-Ray to see how the lungs looked and she instantly looked at me with PURE SHOCK!

She then uttered out the words “how could we have missed this” as she turned the screen my direction.

I instantly seen how bad my child’s spin was curved from the waist up!

The three of us sat there in silence staring at this screen in just shock. THE URGENT CARE DID NOT TELL US OF THE FINDINGS!! They made a note of it on the my chart that I didn’t check because I had no reason to believe I should. At that point Bella didn’t have almost a single physical impairment showing from the outside of her body. Bella being autistic causes her to have severe sensory issues with clothing and any type of physical touch.

So it’s not like we can just hug her and feel something either. This lead her needing full spine X-rays same day at a clinic across the street. Those X-rays then went to Gillette, Children’s Hospital of St. Paul.

It didn’t take long before we had a call back needing us to bring Bella in for MRI scans and detailed X-Rays. The appointment happened with the use of a free rental since the only truck was in the shop. It was at that appointment that were shown that Bella had developed sever (surgical grade) scoliosis in FOUR locations of her spine. All at a sever grade! At that time the third curve was the largest at 51 degrees (photo shown -will update current after March 3rd) with the three other curves ranging from 29 degrees - 40 degrees. The dark cloud didn’t stop there! Her spin is also completely twisted sideways in the lower lumbar.

The curves are from the top of her spine down to her tail bone. They suggested we go to the desk and schedule surgery for a FULL spinal fusion. We already in shock asked if this in anyways was impacting any of her organs. The answer was no not currently. But we can keep checking every four months. Bella was showing to be almost done growing at that stage and her growth was suggested to be very slow over the next two years. They and us felt comfortable with that choice. June comes along and we go to have things checked. Her third curve increased 5 degrees (65 degree total) and no vital organs were compromised at that point. We wanted to wait and keep watch as Bella had it in her head that she didn’t want the surgery unless it was absolutely necessary to protect her quality of life. At this point she had no pain and didn’t notice the effects. They agreed to keep going by four month check in or we had the choice to just let it go since it was predicted to be slow progression until her possibly mid to late twenties. Her dad and I knew in our hearts that surgery was going to have to happen at some point so we started preparing her mind. But like I mentioned in July the vehicle became unsafe. By October I asked her if she felt surgery was an option in her mind yet or if she had noticed anything that would need to be checked. She said no everything feels the same and looks the same and I could honestly say I agreed with her. November comes around and she is starting to feel some change and I’m noticing change. She had no pain but you could see she was starting to have some shifts in her posture and walk that became increasingly noticeable. Bellas still felt no pain and we started to figure out how we could get her to a doctor’s but didn’t even have money to rent something. By December the pain started and her back made drastic changes! Not small but drastic out of the blue. Remind you we are being told this should not be changing much more since she was close to being done growing. Well January 2025 comes and the changes in her body are just rapidly progressing! The truck broke down on the 3rd so we got help on the 5th so I start making the calls. They of course can’t see her until March! They had me use her primary as the middle man to get quick full spine X-rays and send them over. The results are devastating!

Not only have all four curves gone from serve/very sever they now have aggressively worsened! Her current reading show that she now has low lung function , her heart and blood vessels are in a compromised but non emergent state. Her neck has become off set and below her S1 has shifted and is almost fully out of place.

This means without the surgery Bella’s body could crush her over time leading to death. Since surgery is now her only hope we are doing our best to prepare her health to be surgery ready. We don’t have a time line on when this surgery will accrue but we will learn more at March 3rds appointment. We will be meeting with the surgeon to see what marks she needs to hit to be ready for this type of surgery. She as of this week (2/5/2025) was finally given a referral to start Physical Therapy until surgery and to establish herself for Post-op recovery treatments.

Bella will have a long road ahead of her with the praying that surgery goes well and they bring my baby girl back out alive. This recovery is going to be very hard on her and that will leak into us in so many avenues. Bella is currently and will continue to need a lot of hands on medical support from us as her parents. This has already started to impact us as we didn’t start out in good standings as you have read.

All donations will help go to transportation costs,medical,food, living costs as my husband is our soul provider. This has already and will continue to impact his time away from work significantly along with all of the other associated expenses.

We appreciate your support during this difficult time.

Thank you in advance for your compassion and generosity.

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•Just pray for her and our family!

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