Hi, I’m Sam (they/them), and I’m fundraising for gender-affirming top surgery.

Unlearning cis-normativity has been a slow and ongoing process, one that’s allowed me to exist more honestly in my body.

Over the past year, I’ve found a lot of comfort sitting in more of a masc style, and cutting my hair has been one of the most transformative things I’ve ever done.

I describe myself as non-binary, but I also love the expansiveness of queer – a softer, less boxy place to land.

My chest is something I’ve thought about for a long time. I used to joke about wanting velcro boobs. I followed other people’s top surgery journeys closely, donated whenever a fundraiser came across my feed, and held so much admiration for those who took that step... while quietly telling myself it wasn’t something I was “queer enough” or “non-binary enough” to want for myself.

When I finally allowed myself to sit with the thought and to say it out loud, it was obvious this has always been there. And since then, the knowing has only grown stronger.

I’m deeply aware of my chest in day-to-day life, even in moments that are meant to feel neutral or relaxed. Top surgery represents relief from that constant awareness.

Top surgery is medically-necessary, gender-affirming care for me, and I’m completely certain it’s the right decision. I’m looking forward to the comfort, freedom, embodiment, and ease on the other side – and the joy, too. Allowing myself to feel excited has taken some courage, but it feels important to name that this isn’t just about relief; it’s about coming home to myself.

I’ve already completed two surgical consults, a breast ultrasound, and a psychological assessment, and I’m now waiting for my surgery date in May 2026.

All funds raised will go toward my hospital admission, surgeon and anaesthetist fees, and some recovery-related costs. The estimated total of medical costs alone is just over $10,000.

I’m working hard in the lead up to surgery and will be contributing as much as I can myself. Still, I can’t do this alone. I’ve given a lot to others and to my community over the years, and asking for support for myself feels both scary and deeply vulnerable. But this is one of the bravest things I’ve ever done, and allowing myself to receive care – from community, from chosen family, from those who want to support – is part of that journey.

If you’re able to donate, any amount is hugely appreciated. However, if you’re not in a position to give financially, sharing this would also mean the world to me. Life is tough, and there’s a lot going on in the world and in our communities.

Thank you for being here, for reading, and for supporting me as I move toward feeling more at home in my body.