Supporting the Ngow Family

With permission and on behalf of Kate, I'm starting this campaign and outreach for monetary help to lessen the burden and stress she and the family are experiencing. Right now, the family and especially Kate need to focus on resting & preparing for a fight. If you've seen Kate's facebook post this morning, you'll know that she has recently been diagnosed with Clear Cell Renal Cell Carcinoma and is in the hospital.

Lost wages, medical expenses, debt, family travel expenses, etc are all included in this request. Kate is approaching this diagnoses with a realistic mindset and she knows their family will need help.

Kate also shared her Venmo account if you'd wish to send that way:  Kalikicks

Here is the full post from Kate:

This past year I have been very quiet about my problems. Just out of fear people would ask too many questions... I would put “bad ideas” into the universe that the universe would bite me back with... or frankly just because I don’t want to oversaturate my feed with doom and gloom. Doesn’t everyone like love and want to post the good? Well... that’s not been working for me. So I’m changing tactics and asking for help. It is funny because I really need so much but I don’t even know what to ask for but I want to start with prayers and texts and well wishings... avoiding them has done me no good.

I am presently admitted at Beaumont troy hospital and I am still processing the news I have been diagnosed with Clear Cell Renal Cell Carcinoma. I do NOT, at this time, know the stage. In the last two weeks I have had a CT scan with and without contrast, an MRI with and without contrast, blood work, and a biopsy.

I SHOULD be worried about my lack of sleep from my sweet new baby.... about every little bump and bonk and scratch and weird cough on that same baby.... the fact I’m not spending even a fraction of my time with my husband who goes above and beyond in every sense of the word.... what I’m going to do with my amazing nanny kids and how best to help them learn.... The fact I don’t talk to or see my family nearly as much.... but Instead I keep picturing my son growing up, meeting a girl and her asking “do you miss your mom?” Only to imagine him responding “Well, I never really knew her...”

I don’t want a pity party... but I’ve just really reached my boiling point of what I can hold in anymore and I’m emotionally mentally and physically at a loss. I am scared. I am really, really, really scared. I’ll spare you the details but my body is SCREAMING at me that it’s not okay.

In the past 15(?) months I have lost my grandfather, battled the emotions that come with a high risk pregnancy (every week was an up or down the just kept getting worse), dealt with the NICU, had my new car totaled, found out our son needs hearing aids that the state of Michigan does not mandate our insurance cover a CENT of, and now this.

I love my family. I love my sweet baby. I love my job. I am so fortunate to be living this life. I have had so many blatant blessings in the past year as well. Guys, have you SEEN how cute my baby is!?

What do I need from you? How can you help?

I need money for bills and expenses and debts. I need meals for my husband and family who are flying out. Please pray for me, please send good vibes and thoughts and ask me how I am. Please tell me how much you love me and why. And please do all of this with patience in my responses. I’m seriously so emotionally needy but it’s 4 am.... I haven’t slept in almost 24 hours, I am covered in bandages and wires and I’m just DONE. I want this to be my last “trial” for a LONG TIME. Mostly I want to go home and snuggle and sleep with my baby... I’m never planning to sleep train this kid... I want every single moment with him.

I will keep posting updates as I have them-Kate