Supporting Ruthie and Ryleigh in Tough Times

Hi y'all!

First off, this is absolutely the last thing I ever wanted to do.

Asking for help is very difficult for me. So far, I've been very lucky with the help of my parents and family friends letting me pick up extra work to make ends meet until I get back on my feet.

Although I am facing one of the toughest times in my life, being from NC, I do not feel like I even have a right to ask for help.

I left my marital home on Sunday, 9/22/24, after two of my husband's family members suggested I go for a couple of days for my mental well-being and safety.

On Thursday, 9/26/24, I returned home after speaking with my husband (he said to come while he was at work) to grab a few more things. He had changed the locks. After speaking with the sheriff's office, they allowed me to go in and advised me to get all I could. Although I'm legally allowed in the home at any time since we are married, my safety was a concern.

Since this, my husband has cut off all means of our shared finances. He called and canceled the auto draft of my car payment and insurance. He closed our joint account and has made sure I have no money whatsoever.

I do work with the community college school system, but I only get paid once a month (not for a couple more weeks).

In September, I paid a lot of things for our home, including payments for a building we had ordered. The agreement was he would reimburse that money as well as pay the normal bills.

Instead, he did the opposite.

I pay Ryleigh's car and insurance and her loan for college.

At this time, I'm falling incredibly behind since I've recently been made aware that he hadn't paid bills in 2 months (I guess I should have known, but I took his word when he told me they had been paid).

At this time, my personal car payment is late from September and will be due again soon.

Ryleigh's car and school loan will be due soon.

I have other things due, but I'm doing my best to stay above water.

I am applying for spousal support, but the court system is behind.

Anything helps at this point.

I am willing to come clean, do home projects, etc., if you'd like to message me.

I promise this isn't something I want to do, but as someone that has truly tried to do right, I've found myself in a very difficult place!

I appreciate every single word of encouragement and the love and support I've received.

Thank you again to everyone willing to help out in this very personal but tough situation.

Ruthie & Ryleigh