This GoFundMe has been created on behalf of our dear friend and sister Lisa Baray Gonzales and her two beautiful daughters as they navigate an unimaginable loss. Lisa’s husband, Nian, passed away suddenly the day before Thanksgiving.
The purpose of this fundraiser is to help with any costs related to Nian’s services, and to support Lisa as she begins this difficult journey of raising their girls as a single mother. The days ahead will not be easy, and any help—no matter the amount—will make a meaningful difference.
Below is the heartfelt message Lisa shared on November 30th in honor of her husband. Her words say everything about their love, their life, and the incredible person Nian was:
Nian and I would have been together for 24 years today. We grew up together and navigated the world the best we could as partners. Opposites in absolutely every way, but somehow a perfect match. It’s hard to explain to someone looking in, but our souls aligned. Even though we were different, it just worked. We were never perfect, but one thing I can say is that we loved each other deeply.
Even though I was only 14 years old when I met Nian, I knew the minute we met that I loved him and that we were meant to be. I did everything possible to be with him. Nian made a huge impact on my life. He taught me so much about this world. Many people have told me Nian did well in life because of me, but I think the honest truth is that he saved me. I view people and the world differently because of him. I softened a little, and my perspective on life changed. I used to tease him and say the world is not all rainbows and sunshine, because he could see the good in every person and every situation. He was truly a remarkable person, and I can say with my whole heart that I have never met anyone like him. To say Nian will be missed is an understatement—this world will never be the same without him.
Nian was everything to everyone. His ability to be the glue in all his friend groups, the person everyone admired, was one of the greatest gifts he gave this world. To be known by Nian was to be loved by Nian. His smile and laugh could light even the darkest room. His ability to love people who didn’t always deserve it was remarkable. He loved without judgment and touched so many lives.
The one thing that gives me peace is knowing he is with his grandpa Lucio now. He was like a father to Nian and helped shape him into the man he became. Their bond was incredible, and I know they are somewhere fishing, laughing, and talking about the good times. Nian also lost many friends in the last couple of years, each of whom meant so much to him. I imagine they’re having the biggest BBQ in heaven, and he is so happy to be reunited with them.
Our girls will never be the same without their dad. Jaylin and Nian had this magical bond. They were best friends who loved watching sports together. She looked up to him and wanted to be with him every minute. She has the kindest, biggest heart because of him.
Ava, my small but feisty little girl, loved joking and playing tricks on him. They were goofy and fun together. She kept him on his toes and definitely gave him a run for his money. But she softened with him and loved him deeply.
Life is going to be beyond difficult without him—his warm hugs, loving kisses, and positive outlook. If my smile is gone or the light in my eyes has dimmed a little, just know I am working to get it back for him. One day I will be with him again.
Please, if you loved Nian, celebrate his life by taking care of your health. Get yearly blood work, go to the doctor, and keep your body healthy. Remember that tomorrow is not promised, so hold your loved ones tight and tell them what they mean to you. We only get a short time in this world, and we never know when our chapter will close.
My little family will be okay—I promise. We are such a strong group of girls. Don’t feel sad for us, but instead feel grateful that we had 39 years of Nian’s presence in our lives. Thank you to my amazing family—I know I wouldn’t have made it through this week without you. To the friends and loved ones who have reached out, I am forever grateful for your love and support. Just know I love you all.