My name is Starla Lynch. I’m the mom of 4 beautiful kids who don’t deserve the hand they are being dealt. In January, my husband and I separated at his request, and I filed for divorce pretty quickly after. He told me two years before I left him that he would destroy my life if I ever left him, just like he did to his first wife. For the past 10 months, he has done just that. He’s admittedly had me pulled over many times, told police I had drugs in my car to have my car searched, called several of my doctors and told lies about me, told my friends the craziest untrue stories about me, threatened to call my job and my licensing board, and called CPS to open countless investigations. I had to put a DVO on him for many things, including physical violence and stalking, and he has violated that DVO several times and has even gone to jail for it for a couple weekends.

For months, I have told everyone who would listen that he is using third parties to harass me. He’s called various offices and demanded I be arrested. Back in the summer, he escalated and was arrested and served weekends in jail. Everything calmed down for a bit until my fiancé and I became public with our engagement. Within days of that announcement, he started back up again. More DCBS claims, more demanding I be arrested and followed, new family court proceedings, acting crazy at pick-ups and drop-offs, etc.

Within a week or two of the engagement being public, the following things happened: a DCBS case against me was unsubstantiated, a new case was opened against me in a different county claiming many things that have already been reported and unsubstantiated, my ex-husband started an altercation with my fiancé in which he was found with a weapon later on that he hid, and he used that altercation to make a bogus story that he was attacked from behind and was knocked out, even though my fiancé had marks on him too. He tried to have me charged with neglect because my son was in his custody, and when that didn’t work in criminal court, he filed an ex parte motion against me in family court, removing my son from my care based on lies saying I somehow plotted an attack on him. The courts awarded custody back to me after two weeks, but my son cannot have any contact with my fiancé until a therapist confirms he doesn’t have any ill feelings towards my fiancé. He doesn’t, despite my ex-husband trying to brainwash my son. But getting into a therapist around the holidays is difficult and going to take some time. Since all of that, I have been notified that the CPS case filed against me in a separate county was substantiated with nothing short of lies. If that goes through and I end up in the central registry, I will can my job and my career of 16 years. For 10 months, I’ve watched this man take shot after shot after shot at me, and after all that, he finally found a way to ruin my life.

I need help. I’d never ask for this if I didn’t, especially around the holidays. I have to pay for two separate cases for an attorney. One is my family court case with my son so our family can be back together. I’ve paid the retainer, but we have blown through most of it already, and it’ll take much more than that to be done with the case. And now I need money for the CPS case to preserve my job and my life. Any extra money will go toward missing work that comes along with it and any other fees I may incur. This is all separate from the criminal cases that could happen due to the altercation that my fiancé was acting in self-defense. My kids are suffering right here at Christmas. My 14-year-old with autism is having more behavior problems than normal because he doesn’t understand why my fiancé can’t be with us, and he loves him dearly. Please consider helping our family. And please help me stop this harassment and help us (especially my kids) to live in peace. Please help me stop this once and for all.