Support Shelly After the Loss of Her Husband Troy

I am reaching out and asking for support for my mom, Shelly, who is dealing with the loss of her primary caregiver and husband Troy.

My dad died suddenly on October 11th. My dad had not worked due to his physical injuries he sustained at work over 20 years ago leaving him unable to work. He tried to get social security disability for those years and was left with denial after denial. He and my mom could not afford life insurance due to both of their health conditions and high premiums while being on a very limited monthly budget. My mom has also had her own health issues being on social security disability for more than 20 years. With those health issues getting worse the last 2 years and leaving my mom with over 10 hospital visits in the last year, she unfortunately had to have her foot amputated due to an infection that almost took her life. My dad was her primary caregiver despite his own need of a caregiver. He would tend to her hand and foot even if he hurt to make sure she was taken care of.

This was hard for my dad to watch, and I saw his fears coming out with my mom almost dying over the last year and all of the hospital visits. He tried to step up despite his own health concerns.

He was recently got accepted to get social security, but he passed away before his first payment. The relief I saw on his face after 20 years was heartbreaking. You could tell he felt like he could actually take care of his family again like he hoped in some way. Tragically though he will see none of this.

My mom and dad have always struggled financially but they were always willing to give whatever they had and suffer more for the benefit of others. They would skip meals to help make sure their kids ate or were able to do activities when we were younger. My parents are the definition of selfless people. On their fixed income they were living month to month with no backup plan. My dad would do what he could to make or save money. He would clip coupons constantly, pick up work where he could, and try his best despite his own back pain. He would hurt every day of his life due to fibromyalgia, his hurt back from when he first got injured, his brain tumor, and a few other medical issues. He was fighting and suffering every day, as does my mom still. They fought together and my mom broke my heart when I recently heard her say she didn't just lose her love, her husband, but she lost the person she could relate to the most with all the pain they endured the last 20 years with their physical injuries. As well, with her own battles and not being able to walk due to her muscular dystrophy the last few years, or her recent foot amputation. He became what she would describe as her legs. He did what she no longer could.

So here I am asking for support for my mom who doesn't have a plan because her plan was always month to month focused for 20 years. I plan to help in whatever ways I can but that does not seem like enough. She doesn't have the money to afford funeral services, nor does she have the money really to sustain her living. And unfortunately they did not have a life insurance plan set up due to their lack of monthly funds. The money you donate to this cause will go directly to my father's funeral services and following that bill the rest will go into a fund to help my mom to pay her monthly bills she barely afforded when my dad was alive helping in the small but huge ways that he could.

Thank you to all of you who do read this and decide to help out in whatever way you can.