Help Huy Crush Lymphoma

      2020 has been a terrible year for everyone but it sucks even more to hear: "you have cancer."  Right when we were making strides after moving from CA to TX the pandemic hit and I was laid off, leaving my husband Huy to provide for our family of four.  August came around, and it brought terrible news of my grandmother's passing.  Within a month, two more family members passed away.  It was especially hard because I could not fly home and could only grieve from afar. I thought that things could not get worse. But it did.

        My husband, Huy who is normally healthy, began complaining of pain in his jaw.  He insisted that it was just a toothache or infection.  He was feverish.  He sweated through the night and the pain just wouldn't go away.  He thought maybe his body was reacting to the TX mosquito bites.  He took Tylenol but the fever didn't seem to come down.  He had high fevers for over a week and his face began to swell - spreading down to his neck.  Swallowing became difficult.  Finally, after suffering through weeks of this pain, he agreed to go to the ER.  We thought he'd be prescribed some antibiotics and pain meds and be done.  The doctors did a CT scan and discovered multiple lymph nodes behind his right eye and neck.  They were concerned and warned us that this could be cancer as the nodes were abnormal.  We were referred to an oncologist who confirmed that it was likely cancer.  Another CT scan showed additional nodes on his chest and armpits.  Huy refused to believe that he could have cancer.  He didn't want to get more tests done.  He was adamant that they were just wasting his time.  However, after a long talk, he agreed to continue with the tests for the sake of our boys.  Within a month we followed through with all of the doctor's aggressive orders: multiple CT scans, a PET scan, a neck biopsy, an eye biopsy, and a bone marrow biopsy.  Test after test, the news just became grimmer. He was finally diagnosed with Lymphoma.  

               Our world was turned upside down.  By the third biopsy he finally believed that he has lymphoma.  He is fighting hard, not just for himself but for his boys who he loves more than anything in the world. He is continuing with tests and treatments, with ongoing chemotherapy for the next 6 months.  Dealing with the sickness is tough enough but I can see how stressed and worried he is about me and our sons, and about the huge hospital bills that the insurance didn’t cover.  The financial burden has become too much at this point.  It is almost unbearable at times.  I continue to send out my resume to any place that is hiring, however I can only hope to land a remote position that would allow me to work from home while supporting Huy and our 2 boys who are doing distance learning due to COVID-19. 

            Huy is a phenomenal father and husband.  Prior to his diagnosis, he would spend his days off taking us biking, hiking, and fishing.  He is the most selfless person.  He does everything for the sake of his family and does little for himself.  As long as we are happy then he is happy.  The boys love their father and don’t fully understand why he can’t do those things with them lately.  To make up for it, he has been spending time teaching them about gardening while tending to our makeshift garden now that he’s unable to do the more active activities.  My hope is to help Huy feel less stressed about the costs associated with his treatment so he can focus on his treatment so he can go back to his healthy self. 

             I set up this GoFundMe campaign in the hopes that we will receive some donations to help us through this difficult time.  Our boys may not fully understand the seriousness of what their dad is going through but they do know that he can only go back to the way he was once he finishes treatment and beats this.  Those who know Huy know that he is a hard working man, he always puts our boys and his family first.  He is the kind of person that would suffer a bit if it means he’s helped someone.  We would be grateful for any donation you are able to give!  We are hoping to get enough to cover the medical bills and a small portion will be income replacement while Huy is in treatment and recovery.  We wish you would find it in your heart to help a father in need, give him a fair chance to fight to recover from this disease and to continue to be the best father he has always been to his sons.  With so much love and positivity we strongly believe that Huy will crush this. Please be part of the power to pull us through this rough path. 


With much gratitude and appreciation,

Huy, Jordan, Alvin, and Thuy