Help & Support the Fu Family - 帮助支持傅家

Support for the Fu Family: Funeral Expenses and Recovery

Dear friends, family & kind strangers,

My name is Lily Fu and I am reaching out during an incredibly difficult time for our family. My beloved grandma has been battling cervical cancer since 2021. Despite her strengths and the warrior she is, she took her last breath on June 20th, 2024. Watching her fight this cruel disease only to succumb has been devastating for our family.

When I first heard about the diagnosis in 2021, I quickly left my life in New York to help my family. I stopped chasing that dream because I knew my family would struggle, especially my grandma, without me being there since most doctors and specialists don’t speak Chinese or have a translator.

Watching her fight this cruel disease only to succumb has been devastating for our family. My grandma was beautiful, kind and strong. Even in her illness, she would always offer water and fruits to the nurses during their visits, her way of giving back even when she had so little to give. She faced countless doctor visits, radiation sessions, urine catheter changes, and scans with unwavering courage, always giving me a thumbs up after every painful procedure.

She was the happiest person, her thumbs-up was a constant source of strength and reassurance to me. In her final days, the light in her smile dimmed. The heartbreaking part was seeing her unable to give that familiar thumbs-up she usually does for me and her unable to express her pain, her smile fading away as the disease took her strengths. The only way I could let her know I was there was holding her hand to my face so she can know it was me and that she didn’t have to be scared. I wanted to let her know even during her final minutes, I was by her every step to the end.

This isn’t the only sorrow we bear. My dad, who is my grandma’s son, recently lost his younger brother—a loss that has already broken his spirit. My dad has always been a kind, selfless man, willing to help anyone in need. As if that weren’t enough, he suffered a debilitating stroke, leaving him unable to walk or work. The financial strain and emotional weight of these tragedies are unbearable.

I’m so lost on what to do to help. We are now faced with the challenge of covering my grandmas funeral expenses. Our goal is to give her the dignified farewell she deserves. While also ensuring that my dad can focus on his recovery without the added stress of financial worries he has to face alone. The stress and fear of how to manage has taken a severe toll on him, and I worry every day about the possibility of another stroke and his health becoming worse. I can’t bear to think of losing him too.

This GoFundMe is our plea for help. We need support to cover the funeral costs and to provide my dad with some relief from the financial pressures that are threatening his already fragile health. Your contributions will help us honor my grandma’s memory and give my dad the chance to focus on his recovery without the constant fear of financial ruin.

Please, if you can, donate to help us through this dark time. Every dollar will make a difference, and sharing our story with others could bring the support we desperately need.

From the depths of our broken hearts, from the Fu Family we thank you and god bless you.

Lily Fu

亲爱的朋友、家人和善良的陌生人，

大家好，我叫傅丽丽, 现在正处于我们家庭极其艰难的时刻。我心爱的奶奶自2021年起一直在与宫颈癌作斗争。尽管她坚强如战士，她还是在2024年6月20日离开了我们。看着她与这种残酷的疾病斗争并最终离世，给我们的家庭带来了巨大的打击。

当我在2021年第一次听到这个诊断时，我立刻放弃了在纽约的生活，回到家里帮助我的家人。我停止追逐梦想，因为我知道，如果没有我在身边，我的家人尤其是奶奶会很艰难，因为大多数医生和专家都不会说中文，也没有翻译。

看着她与这种残酷的疾病斗争并最终离世，给我们的家庭带来了巨大的打击。我的奶奶既美丽又善良，她很坚强。即使在她生病的时候，她总是给来看望她的护士提供水和水果，这是她在自己几乎无力之时，仍然在回馈的方式。她面对无数次的医生访问、放射治疗、尿道导管更换和扫描，表现出无比的勇气，每次痛苦的程序后，她总会给我竖起大拇指。

她是最快乐的人，她的竖起的大拇指对我来说是一种持续的力量和安慰。在她生命的最后几天，她的笑容逐渐消失。最令人心碎的是，看着她无法再给我那熟悉的竖起大拇指，她无法表达她的痛苦，她的笑容随着疾病的侵袭而逐渐消失。我唯一能让她知道我在她身边的方法，就是把她的手放在我的脸上，让她知道是我，并告诉她不要害怕。我想让她知道，即使在她生命的最后一刻，我都陪伴在她身边，直到最后。

这不是我们唯一的悲痛。我的爸爸，也就是我奶奶的儿子，最近失去了他的弟弟——这已经让他的精神受到了极大的打击。我爸爸一直是一个善良无私的人，总是愿意帮助任何需要帮助的人。然而，他又遭遇了一次严重的中风，使他无法行走和工作。经济上的压力和情感上的重担让我们无法承受。

我真的不知道该如何帮助。我们现在面临着支付奶奶葬礼费用的挑战。我们的目标是给她一个体面的告别仪式，同时也确保我爸爸能够专注于他的康复，而不必面对额外的财务压力。管理这些压力和恐惧已经对他造成了严重的影响，我每天都担心他可能再次中风，健康状况进一步恶化。我无法忍受再失去他。

这次GoFundMe是我们求助的呼声。我们需要支持来支付葬礼费用，并为我爸爸提供一些财务上的缓解，以避免对他已经脆弱的健康构成威胁。你们的捐款将帮助我们纪念奶奶，给我爸爸一个专注于康复的机会，而不必时刻担心财务困境。

请，如果可以的话，捐款帮助我们度过这段黑暗的时期。每一分钱都会有所帮助，而分享我们的故事也能带来我们急需的支持。

从我们破碎的心底，傅家向您表示感谢，并祝您平安。

Lily Fu 傅丽丽。