UPDATE

On December 4, 2025 at 1:21 pm He passed away. What I feared has now became a reality so quickly. We are now struggling together as a family to find a way to provide our Father the proper funeral that he deserves. Although I don't think that we could ever give him a funeral that would show how much we love him no matter how much money we had in the world. We are not asking to have the most prestige funeral for him we just want a funeral that will honor the man who has been there for us all these years. Just something that will let him know that we love him and will never forget him. Please help us say good bye for now to our father.

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May God Bless you and your family,

From a loving family trying to show their father one last time that they love him.

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It breaks my heart to write this story. I am writing this on behalf of my father. A man who served his country in the US Air Force for 20 years, has been a father to 6 children, has provided everything he could for his family even if it meant working 3 jobs and loosing many hours of sleep over the years.

2025 has been rough on him as far as his health goes. In February he was declared to had congestive heart failure which lead to him undergoing surgery to have a pacemaker put in. Three months ago he fell and hospilized due to extremely high sugar levels and was diagnosed with, liver cancer along with kidney failure due to diabetic damages. I recently came back to San Antonio, TX to help care for him about three weeks ago. Walking through the door I was in complete shock to discover a man I've known my whole life to be half his normal size stuck in the bed bedridden, unable to walk, situp or feed himself on his own. When three months ago he was able to each of those task without any issues. The last two weeks have been a reality check to us of how bad his health is, as he has been put on hospice. The nursing staff has said to me that he is down to weeks and that it's only a matter of time before the man I've known who has sacrificed so much to take care of his family leaves us and this earth.He is 77 years old and been married to my mother his biggest pride and joy in life for almost 43 years, she is 78, cannot take care of him on her own.

With him being out of work and unable to work with his health conditions, they have fallen behind on the majority of the financial needs. Right now, I am the acting caregiver, which requires me or someone else being there with him 24/7 to care for him and help him do daily normal human task which he cannot do due to no upper body strength, hands that constantly shake as if he has tremors. I believe that is due to possible nerve damage from his diabetes. He isn't able to walk more than five feet with someone holding him to help him keep his balance. It breaks my heart to see him this way and worse it brings tears to my eyes seeing my mother scared that she might lose the man she has loved and cared for, for so many years and confused as what to do, as she is unable to help him as she doesn't have the strength to change his bedding or guide him to the restroom throughout the day. So, therefore, I've taken the place and am doing all those thingsthat she cannot.

The biggest impactful childhood memory I have of him is when I was kindergarten I broke my leg playing baseball and was stuck in a wheel chair unable to walk for months. At the graduation ceremony he picked me up and carried me across that stage to receive my awards like the rest of my class. Now is my turn to carry him. I think the most important things he taught me in life wasn't to be a man, but "THAT LOVE IS THE MOST VALUABLE GIFT A PERSON CAN RECIEVE OR GIVE". "IF YOU SEE SOMEONE STRUGGLING OFFER A HAND, THAT SAME PERSON MAYBE THE HELP YOU NEED ONE DAY"

We are needing help to pay the mortgage, utilities, and medical needs. They are current on them, but this next month is going to be a complete struggle. It's even hard for me to leave the house to go talk to public assistance as that means leaving him there unattended by anyone other than my mother.

Please help in any way you can. I have no other family to count on other than a sister who is a single mother of five kids and dealing with her own struggles at this time. I was told 3 weeks ago by hospice that they don't see him making it another 3 weeks but by the grace of God he's still fighting past that. It scares me with the financial hardshipsn we are currently facing I may need to prepare for a funneral sooner then I am prepared to. I'm praying everyday that God reverse everything and that my father bounce back in his health and well being.

All I can do right now is have faith and continue to pray each day and night. Please if you could find it in your heart to help in anyway no matter how small. If you can donate, even a small amount, you are helping give a father more time with his children. You are helping a husband stay alive for the wife who loves him more than words can express. You are helping a family who simply refuses to give up.

Please share our story. Please help us reach those who can help. Time is slipping away, and we are fighting the hardest battle of our lives

Thank you and God bless you,