Support Annie in this time of transition & grief

Last week, a dear friend lost her husband Randy (a.k.a. 'Dad'). After much urging by many close to her, she's agreed to let us set up this GoFundMe campaign to help with the considerable medical bills that she is now faced with. I'm hopeful we can help her clear this medical debt she now faces with his passing, and allow her focus on her loved ones and her own healing and grief. I've included her own words and the inspiration for this campaign below.

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From Facebook on Thursday, Aug. 24, 2023:

One of my favorite photographs of the two males who so richly impacted my life. This is when we first brought Malu home to help Dad through his quadruple by pass. We grieved last year when Malu crossed the Rainbow Bridge.

This Monday I was able be alongside my best friend and cheerleader as he took his last breath - now they get to be together and honestly a part of me is “angry” that Dad gets to go first - although he always reminded me age before anything else

It has taken me a few days to truly believe he is not coming home - and it sunk in big time today when I made the deposit for his cremation.

I did not want to have a post seeing him as he was in the last few months-as this is how he has been for 99% of the time we were together-sometimes with moustache, sometimes without. Actually after Malu rarely with a mustache - as Malu like to “kiss” him

I want to express my gratitude for all that each of you have brought to our “hale” for honestly, I am clear without your support, I would not be here and I would not have the lessons I have “earned”.

He did not want a viewing or services- wanted to hang with me till I am ready and “dive” back in the channel or hit the highest ridge over Waimanalo- one he always wanted to hike and never did- but I never shared that as I did not know if I could even do it- and lo and behold my son shared tonight that IF I wanted he could take part of his ashes up to the top of Pu’u O Kona-without him even knowing that had been a request as he too is still processing and I did not want to burden him further- however a validation for me that Dad wants us to move onward and forward!

Additionally I have had more then one person tell me to do a GoFundMe account for the remaining medical bills and the cremation-but honestly with all that is happening-too much to deal with… and Dad would be “shame” - honestly my feelings too.

I will admit I am beyond strapped with all the medical costs, cases of Nutrent that I cannot return, hundred of dollars worth of meds... all the items to help us get through- the deposit for the cremation done by selling the bed we just got- but an ROI- a blessing so that will start the process.

So IF you can help and a couple of you have already sent funds in this last stretch- Thank you feels totally inadequate- so I just want you to know I love each and everyone of you and pray that none of you experience what has happened since February….

May you remember all the laughter he brought- all the good intentions-as I use to remind myself- behavior is not always a true reflection of one’s intent

Keep him in your prayers as he transitions and please ask Father to help my son and I cope and provide his family with the strength they need to move forward .

Remember to Breathe Aloha!!

A Hui Hou

Elizabeth 'Annie' Cadirao