Support for Family in Aftermath of Young Dads Passing

My name is Katie and I am Alex and Sophia’s mom. I moved to Kingston with the plan of sharing custody of my 3 and 4 year old children with my husband (their dad) Josiah. Things got messy with our separation and disagreements on custody, and he decided he was not comfortable with the kids coming to Kingston. Since then, I have been back and forth visiting while we go through family court. It had been a really devastating and uncertain transition for all of us, however the physical distance as spouses was necessary during separation.

Unfortunately, Josiah has died unexpectedly. Not only are we grieving the loss of Alex and Sophia’s Dad who has been their primary caregiver for the last few months, but also the trauma of being present at their dads death and coping with the emotions and confusion they have.

I am currently mostly in midland where I’m lucky enough to have a friend who offered use of their home while they are away ❤️

How the money will be used

Thank you for taking the time to read our story. Below is a quick statement I’ve wrote about and for Josiah.

It has been said that Josiah was a gentle giant. Giant, he was. When describing Josiah I would say he is strong, powerful, protective, fearless. His physical strength was truly impressive and I wish he would have competed, so others could have seen his hard work and potential. He was a brilliant chess player, he was always ready to challenge anyone to a match. He was a devoted stepfather to my older son Aidan, and they shared many amazing memories. Most of them, involved teasing me of course. Outside of being a father, he was most proud to be a brother and loved his siblings deeply. He was a very proud, passionate person and I hope he finally realized his full potential.

Our children show many of his best traits already. I asked Sophia about her recent trip to the cottage and she immediately talked about the waves. I saw her Dads fearlessness. I also remembered his love for the waves, and how hard it was to keep on my feet while taking photos of him jumping into them. When we were all together at the park, Alex came to Sophia’s aid and ran to her when she had fallen. I saw his Dads protection for someone he loves. I saw how proud he was. I now remember him putting me on his shoulders, when I was being knocked over in those waves. Soon after, we learned I was pregnant with Sophia.

Josiah, I always had love for you. You knew this. I will work hard to forgive you. I will forgive myself for you. Thank you for entrusting me with your fears and struggles, and reaching out to me especially over the last month you were alive. With all our struggles, it meant a lot to me to be able to be there for each other. It showed me that I too have strength and was able to love and support you unconditionally. Your trust in me is giving me the strength to move forward. I love you, and your memory will be kept alive in our children for eternity.

Josiah Christopher Willems

Sept 23 1991 - July 21 2024