Support a Caregiver Facing Homelessness

I desperately need your help. I am a 57-year-old son who lost both of my parents to medical issues and progressive dementia. My mother passed in 2015 and my father in 2021. I was their primary in-home caregiver from my early adulthood until they both passed. We lived in the same home together and I still live in the same home now. The home was never put in a trust, but it was willed to me by my parents and the deed was transferred to my name before my parents passed. I followed the Adult Child Care Giver Act as it was written. Just recently, the Idaho Health and Welfare sent me a summons demanding about $270k for Medicaid expenses and immediate mortgage payoff. I hired an attorney, but my funds won't last long. I am beyond scared I will lose my home and go into bankruptcy and be out on the street.

I am a retired Idaho Law Enforcement officer. 13 years at IDOC and 5 years as a County Marshal. I had to retire early to take care of my parents. Because of my early retirement, I lost close to 60% of my potential pension. My brother also retired early to help me care for my father before he passed. Without my brother’s support, I would not have been able to work low paying part-time jobs to pay bills and mortgage payments. Due to jumping back and forth between jobs to adjust time for my father’s care, I was not able to receive work health insurance. After a few years of no insurance, my medical condition has decreased significantly but I have to constantly work in pain just to get by.

The state I risked my life for, the state I cherished, the state I organized so many charities for Alzheimer’s, children’s hospitals, veterans, the state I organized a huge hot rod parade for healthcare workers during COVID at our local hospital, the state I organized neighborhood hot rod parades during COVID for last requests, birthdays, nursing homes, the state I loved is doing everything possible to take my home and throw me to the street.

My life is being destroyed and my near future is unknown. I have been crying and praying every day for months. My parents were the most loving and caring souls I have ever known. I am trying to keep their legacy alive. I am going through total HELL but I will never regret the sacrifices I made for my parents, and I fulfilled their last request to pass at home. My mother passed while my brother and I was giving her CPR, my father passed while I held his hand and saying I loved him. I am so close to losing my home, my life and my sanity. I am praying for any help possible to pay for legal fees and potential costs of finding somewhere to live.