Stop the tirade of a Narcissistic Abuser

Hi Friends,

My name is Kim, and I am trying to help a really good friend of mine raise enough money to escape her narcissistic abuser. She currently needs financial help to pay for lawyer fees and relocate so that she can finally build a new free and independent life.

For her protection, I am keeping her identity anonymous on this public platform, but this is a person who I deeply trust and care for. And there is nothing I want more in this world than for her to be free and not be subjected to the mental and legal abuse from her ex.

To share her story, my friend was in an abusive relationship with this narcissistic man for a few years. Through all of the physical, mental, and sexual abuse she endured, she has still finally been able to find a way to escape. But not without a price. She shares a young child with her abuser (about 2 years old), and in an effort to continue to control and victimize her, he is now weaponizing their child as a means to gain control over her. As someone on the sidelines, this is not something I can standby and watch, especially if I have the community of friends who can all chip in and show her that she is not alone, and that she will one day be able to live a life where he is nothing but a painful memory, a scar that never goes away, but is no longer bleeding.

Even though this man has done nothing for his child since her birth, except maybe visit with her for a couple of hours a handful of times, he his trying to gain full custody of the child. He has no living environment suitable for a kid. He sleeps on a mattress on the ground, invites strangers into his house as he chooses, has a number of mistresses, and has said time and time again that there is not a person important enough in the world for him to sacrifice his career for. My friend even has a recording of him saying and admitting this while she was pregnant with their kid.

Since he knows my friend is not financially independent, he has conflicted her out of any pro-bono legal representation for the family court case. Which is why I am asking for your financial help today. This is just another abuse tactic and needs to be shown that he will not get away with this.

Today, I am hoping with your help, we can amass enough funds so that my friend can find legal representation so that her child is not taken from her and given to this abusive man. If each of us can chip in a gift of $10 or even $5, I am confident that we can help her reach her financial goal.

The story doesn't end there unfortunately. Out of fear of being served with more legal attacks and attacked by this man, she has been in hiding. Out of pure luck, she was able to find an actual recording of him admitting to raping her, and has file a case with criminal court. It has been a roller coaster of a battle and the case is finally with her city's prosecuting office, but this has only caused him to lash out even more.

There is still such a long way to go, but while she keeps fighting the criminal case and for custody of her child, she also needs to relocate to a place where this man can no longer find her and continue to abuse her physically, mentally, and with the aid of the law.

If you are not in a position to donate, but would still like to help in some capacity, we would appreciate it if you could share this fundraiser with your friends or even let us know if you or someone you know can help provide pro-bono legal services. Our hope is that enough people can chip in with a gift of $5, $10, or more, but we will be more than happy to accept any help we can get.

I will continue to keep everyone updated on how this pans out. Thanks to everyone for their help and I know if we all stand together, we can work to end the cycle of narcissistic abuse, and violence against women.

Thanks in advance,

Kim