Stand with Lilly and Her Mom in Tough Times

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Lilly came home yesterday from the hospital. The doctors upon discharge informed us she will come back in 2 weeks for her staples to be removed, she is have follow up x-rays of her collar bone, follow up care for her wrist, and many more appointments. She will go to her pediatrician on Thursday to do lab work upon discharge I noticed alot of her blood work were bot good from the lab work on the 7th so id like to see where they are upon coming home. She will continue her recovery with her Physc doctor as I want her to be able to talk about this traumatic accident with someone other than family and friends who can help her manage and cope with this. Yesterday she was so excited to be able to come home she did well we stopped at Raising Cane's ( her favorite ) she was able to eat 2 bites of the tender and 3 fries ( better than nothing i told her! ) she came home to her room that I cleaned all up and saved her gifts ( thank you, everyone ) she was overwhelmed with happiness. She settled in and laid in her comfy bed around 8PM she went to bed besides waking her up for her medication at 10 pm. She slept all night! She'd be more comfortable at home and was able to get more sleep here than the hospital. Today, she is going to push herself to do more physical activities, she said. Thank you all for your continued support and prayers.

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Tuesday, we will be bringing Lilly home. The doctors said her insides at healing in the right direction. Even though she is in pain and her bones are still broken, they said she will continue physical therapy with outside resources and at home. As her mom, i feel it's being rushed. i say that because there are moments where she has no strength to even walk, and all she wants to do is sleep. But my girl is ready to come home she said, and Mommy is ready to have her here. For Lilly being only 13 years old, she has shown such strength and courage. She has endured more than one child should from Megan being in the hospital with her, losing Megans dog due to the accident, Friday my dog dying and being away from home for so long. But she has handled everything with such maturity. Today I took Hunter & her boyfriend to the hospital and we went to the cafeteria and had lunch together and I saw her laugh and smile. For that brief moment, my heart felt so good. But 20 minutes later, she was in severe pain, so we had to go back to her room, and she laid down and went to sleep. It's little moments that she pushes through the pain, and she's able to be happy that I hold onto. I am so proud to be her mom to say that my girl survived one of the most traumatic accidents I have seen. I can not wait to bring her home, but my heart is torn because I know the moment we leave there, we will be leaving Megan. Megan has lived with me her whole life, and without her home, it feels empty. Not seeing her dancing in the living room with her music so loud I yell, turn it down. Hearing her laughing and snorting, saying the most crazy things. I just know in my heart Megan will be home sooner than anyone thinks, and then our home will feel whole again. I'll wake up at 6AM seeing Lilly doing Megans hair listening to them two, thinking to myself how much they are alike. My heart has been tested so much over this week and a half, and it has felt so broken. Between all of this, I lost my dog of 17 years on Friday, and I have had to hold it together and be strong for my girl. Her bravery has gotten me through this hard time. If you are blessed to go home to your loved ones, hug them extra tight and tell them how much you love them.

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Update on Lilly .. The doctors will be releasing her on Tuesday. I believe they are releasing Lilly because her insides are healing in the direction they needed them. She is able to eat ( now much ) , but she is slowly eating and drinking. I, as her mother, feel this is premature, and I say that because she is not up and being as active as she previously was. She's not walking besides getting up and using the potty chair ( which is beside the bed ). She is lightheaded as she stands up. She can not stand for long periods of time. Her collar bone is in extreme pain, so that in its own is hindering her physical recovery. We just wheelchaired her to the cafeteria she was able to be there for 30 minutes, and then we had to rush back to the room because she was in an extreme amount of pain. She goes through periods where she is doing fine and smiling, then it hits her like a ton of bricks, and the pain overwhelms her. I told the doctors she absolutely needs to be in physical therapy when we get home because I do not know the healing process to all of her broken bone especially the collar bone which is the worse and I feel as if they are disregarding what I am saying. But they are not the ones with her 24 hours they dont see the extreme pain or discomfort she is in. They said they do not know what the insurance will cover for her to go home with. I know there are local resources she can go to, but with them rushing her out, im not sure what they will have to offer. Especially for the long term. We have added some things to her Amazon that will help with recovery. If you can help support it, we would appreciate it if you can't. Your prayers are appreciated as well. Thank you all for your continued love and support.

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Update on Lilly .. we are about the same they switched her pain medication, which I voiced was not a good idea given the amount of pain she is in. Around 7:00 last night, that pain got worse, so they gave her additional medication that seemed to help. In the middle of the night she was sleeping and didn't realize she her head was drifting to the right and she slept like that for a while and woke up screaming and crying because her collar bone was hurting severally. The nurse came in quickly administered more pain medication, and she slept throughout the night. She started her period again , and she ended 3 days prior to the accident. They said trama and stress can produce a period for women again. She is not eating much, but she is taking bites here and there, which to me is progress, and eventually, she will get there but in time. She is not walking as much as she was in the first 3 days she doesn't walk the halls anymore, only goes to the potty chair. In my opinion, she's taken a step backward, but that's to be expected given how severe the accident was. She has her moments where she is awake more, and having visitors definitely helps with that. I have voiced that I feel she is not doing as well as she was. i believe the doctors are waiting on time to see how she heals and what she can handle. She wanted to send extra thanks and love for all the gifts and prayers. They definitely keep her spirits high and a smile on her face.

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I have the biggest news, and Lilly could not wait to share! She can have food, but they are not sure how she will tolerate the chicken tenders; however, the doctor said if she chews them a lot, she can try them. For now, she will stick with mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, and chocolate ice cream. Hopefully, this will produce a bowel movement, but she has let gas, so they are happy with that. If she tolerates food well, they will take the feeding tube out in 3 days. You go Lilly! She said she's ready to go to Raising Cane's when she can fully process food!! She's getting the extra-large sauce from there .

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When Lilly saw how much gifts she had been given her mouth dropped and she said Mommy I feel so loved. Thank you all so much! She updated the registry with some giftcards because she said when I can eat I want to eat eat! She did put a Victoria's Secret in there because they had to cut her clothing off ( of course if she doesn't get it ) Mommy will absolutely replace that and more!! But she insists let's see if someone will be nice enough so you dont have to. Lilly wanted me to thank each and everyone of you for the love between gifts, donations, prayers, and tremendous amount of love! She has been so brave and strong throughout this. The amount of courage she has shows me strength in this time. Her depression has faded in ways I didn't think id see and that's in big thanks to this community rallying together for her and showing her how special she is! Thank each and everyone of you for helping Lilly in the most important time her of life.

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Today, David went to Megans car, and he was determined to get whatever he could. He got Lillys phone, and it was totally undamaged! I could not believe that after seeing the car. Lilly and I went through her calls, and at 1:13, she called 911 for 31 seconds!! We were both in total shock. After that, I believe she passed out. She said Mommy i saved me and Megan Rowley life. Girl, yes, you did. That's a miracle, a true miracle. She is a true blessing, and im so grateful after seeing the car that both my girls are alive.

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Good morning! Yesterday, Lilly had her dye test, which showed that 3 of the 4 flow ways that travel to the intestines to get food and liquids where they need to go are working. One of them is severely swollen and flows through the spine, which is broken. The doctor put her on liquids for now, only small amounts, but her eyes lit up when she took that first sip of chicken broth! She said it tasted like Popeye's gravy. Because the test went so well, they also removed the tube that was suctioning her stomach out. She will still require the feeding tube to stay in, and they will retest in a few days to see how the liquids are going down. If they are going down well, they will introduce her to soft foods. If not, they will feed her through her feeding tube. She also started walking more with the help of a lot of pain medication. Last night, she started to lose her voice and was very exhausted from overdoing herself, so I told her to take it easy today and not overdo it. They took the Ace bandage off her leg yesterday to check the healing on her cut. I wasn't aware that it wasn't just a cut, but a few lacerations that required staples. We also learned that she chipped a tooth, but I told her that can easily be fixed. However, you know kids, she was so worried about the appearance of it. Her left hand is severely hurting, her pinky started to turn purple, so they did an X-ray. We are just waiting on the results. Her buttocks is in extreme pain, so much so that she jumped out of the chair. The doctor said it could be the pain from her spine shooting down, but he said it is not broken. She is more awake now; yesterday, she was talking so much. Day by day, she is progressing well. I am so proud of Lilly and how strong and brave she has become throughout this whole accident. She wanted me to tell everyone thank you so very much for all the love, support, and prayers. Especially for how much you all have donated to her recovery and making it possible for Mommy to not have to leave her. She was so shocked at how much people have rallied behind her, and from the bottom of my heart, thank you all. Lilly suffers from depression and anxiety; she goes through times of feeling so alone, but you all have shown her she is not alone, and I am forever grateful for that.

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I wanted to share some quick updates on Lilly. The doctors are monitoring her hemoglobin levels, and they have dropped since yesterday; she is currently at a 7.4. They will repeat the test in the morning. If she drops to a 7 or lower, they will do a blood transfusion. They also gave her a blood thinner today so she does not develop blood clots. She was more awake today but in extreme pain, and her buttocks hurt so badly that her pain level is a 10. So I will ask them today to check that out; it could just be from her sitting on it, but I wouldn't imagine it would hurt that badly. She stayed awake this morning for 2 hours, which is great, but she's sleeping now, giving her body some rest. I want to tell everyone thank you for all the donations you have given Lilly. I told her how much money she has raised, and she had tears. Lilly suffers from depression and doesn't have any friends, so the amount of support and love you all have shown her made her so happy. You all have shown her that there are people who love her and people who care about her, and that, as a mom, means more than you all know. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so, so much! Lilly is truly so strong. I have had 2 C-sections, and they were hard to recover from, but my girl has a major cut and her insides were operated on, and she gets up every day and walks to the bathroom and sits in her chair. She is so brave and keeps pushing through the pain. The friends and family we have are truly a blessing.

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UPDATE .. Her hemoglobin levels have dropped to a 7.9 since being here. If they continue to drop, she will have to be given more blood. They test her levels daily, so we will know this morning. Yesterday, we found out that her right wrist is broken, so they put it in a splint, and orthopedic doctors will be in today to let us know if she will require a cast. They moved her to another pediatric unit in the hospital in hopes she wouldn't need as much attention throughout the night to be able to get rest, but she needed the nurses more than they had thought. She is still in an extreme amount of pain , and she is starting to cough more, which is causing pain to her stomach. She needs more pain medication as time goes on, so the pain management team will come speak to us today. She is doing her best to push through this pain, and she is walking to the bathroom she has to stop quite frequently, but that is progress, and im super proud of her! Tomorrow the doctor will run dye though her belly to go through the intestines to see she will be able to get food down through the feeding tube and if that goes well we will start to introduce food to her again. Im hoping that goes well because she is severely lacking the vitamins and nutrients that her body needs. I want to thank you all for the generous donations you gave. Lilly was in complete shock when I told her how much money she had raised. She said Mommy can I get some coloring books and markers, absolutely my girl, and with the money, I was able to get her phone replaced, which got damaged in the accident. Lilly suffers from depression and struggles with self-confidence due to being bullied in school, so when she had this tremendous amount of support, it truly made her feel special. For that, I am forever grateful to each of you.

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I am not the type who puts my business out there. I just like to keep you all updated on my sweet girl. But i am struggling a bit with finances due to being out of work for the next few weeks to be with Lilly at the hopsital as they have said we will be here for atleast a few weeks. I dont have enough sick time built up right now with this being so unexpected. Im not sure of what all Lilly will need and this will help with food. I do know my girls phone was damaged beyond repair as it doesn't charge because oil has gotten deeply into it and to some thats nothing which i know its superficial but to my girl thats a lifeline this will absolutely help to get her a new one because even with insurance they are still expensive. I do not expect anything from anyone, but if you could, anything would help at this hard time and definitely be appreciated.