Words from my best friend:

“I am about to “celebrate” my husband's 39th birthday and our eight year wedding anniversary after he ghosted me for two months, left me with an eviction, filing for bankruptcy, and being served divorce papers three days after I had a private investigator find him having an affair with a co-worker. I am in desperate need of help to relocate home to my father over 3,500 miles away in the PNW, try to keep my vehicle to find employment, and pay for an attorney to fight allegations. I am honestly so exhausted that the longer version could take awhile to write."

The Story:

Hello, I am here to assist a friend who is going through an extreme low point in her life. She has been my best friend since 2002, more like chosen family at this point. However, things have gotten chaotic for her recently in a not so great way, and I want to get her back home in a safe place, away from any and all possible dangers she could face if she remains in her current city or state.

This is the short of it as of right now.

My best friend married someone I also considered a best friend several years ago. I introduced them one evening at a music show, and they started hanging out often. Eventually, they started living together. Things seemed great. They made a joint decision and moved around Fall 2019 from Oregon to Texas, then several months later to Connecticut. They were seemingly doing well by the time they landed in Connecticut.

Things started devolving when they left Oregon.

She is currently alone with no friends or family in the area. She is going through a very ugly divorce process at this time. She is facing an eviction from her home. She is facing having to file bankruptcy due to everything. She will have to leave everything behind and start from the ground up, all over again.

She needs to relocate back home to her dad’s in the Pacific Northwest, and she cannot take anything with her once she leaves. She has a small car that can only carry so much in necessities, and would not fare well in winter weather conditions. I’ve got her routed through the Mojave to avoid winter weather and make it home safely, instead of hitting heavy snows or black ice and risk totaling her car or getting stuck somewhere between Denver and Salt Lake City.

Without going into much detail with other things, as some information can still be deemed pending legal matters, they both currently have active protective orders against each other, though she has more protections against him than he does her. He showed up one day with local police to use his one-time to gather anything and leave.

Most, if not all of her possessions that had sentimental value have been taken by her ex-husband, and she’s trying to sell what little she has left. He has tried to get her involuntarily held in a mental hospital in order to gain access to the apartment, which is a violation of the protective orders. He has created fake accounts or has doctored in some way text messages and emails, and has sent them to himself in an attempt to corroborate his story. He has used co-workers or family or mutual friends to spiral the situation. He cut off necessary access to finances.

And as of very recent, she has finally been served divorce papers. She has been asking for a divorce for 3 years and he has not wanted to do it. He only finally offered it to her after getting evidence that an affair had been going on.

She is ready to leave this situation behind, although it does come with its own hurdles for sure.

Where we are at:

She is in need of some financial help to pay for gas and lodging along the way, and some help in replacing necessities such as a bed, dresser and lamp so she’s got something when she gets here.

My best friend and I have had some of our own ups and downs over the past 23 years, like most people would. But she’s been one of those people I’ve deemed very important for so long that if I can do this for her to get her back home safe and get through this monstrous storm, it’s worth a shot. I want to wake up each day for the next 30 years knowing she’s still here. That’s how much she means to me as a person.

Every dollar received will be sent directly to her. She will offer updates of her own throughout this process.