Momma's Cremation

I can't even begin to process what I'm writing, let alone this loss. This TREMENDOUS and sudden loss. On April 21, 2015, my mother, Sandra Oliver was called home to heaven. ANYONE who knows me, knows that my mother was the single most important person in my life and I've spent the past 8 years being her sole care giver. There were days that I didn't think I could do it. There were days that I didn't WANT to do it. Somewhere along the way, I began to make peace with the fact that it didn't matter what I want...God called and annointed me to do it.

In 2007, my mother came to live with me after losing her marriage, her job and then her home. It was at this time that my mother came to live with me in a one-bedroom apartment in Ypsilanti. It was during this time that we began to see the beginnings of my mother's physical decline. As her health worsened, my mother lost several jobs due to absenteeism and inability to perform job functions. Despite the obstacles, my mom continued to fight and even enrolled in college in effort to find meaning and purpose in this new phase of life. My mom was a fighter, a beliver. She was hopeful. Desite her declining health. we never expected such a sudden death. 

I have to be honest. I was not prepared. I am NOT prepared. Not emotionally. Not Spiritually. Not Financially. Given that my mom was unable to work, she did not have income for several years. It was only recently that she was approved for disability. To my horror, I just recently learned that the Federal Government began garnishing her disabilty checks because her student loans were in default.  The little bit that she was approved for to care for herself, was reduced to almost nothing. I have assumed the total costs of her home, medical and daily care, including food and recent medical equipment. I have assumed a considerable amount of debt and have wiped my savings completely out. This, my beloved, is the reason why I created this page. 

I haven't even begun to process my moms death before I am forced to figure out how to pay for it. I have just learned that the cost of cremation services will cost a minimum of $2800-$3000. This does NOT include a memorial service, urns, etc. My mother had no other surviving members in her family and thus no one who is able to help contribute to cost. Regretablly, our hope for healing and neglectful decisions meant that we did not select a life-insurance policy either. 

I am asking my fellow family, spiritual and natural, friends, and colleagues to prayerfully considering making a donation to help me and my family cover cremation services. Any gift, seed or donation will help. Nothing is to small.  If you find it in your heart and ability to give, it is our hope to be able to raise these funds in the next 48-72 hours. If you are unable to give at this time, please consider sharing this page with your friends or anyone else in your circle that may be able to give a gift. 

Many prayers and thanks to all of you in advance. God Bless you for even considering. 


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