Single Mom & Son Need To Escape Abusive Neighbour!
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My name is Huda Eldardiry and I am a single mom to a 13-year-old kid. Currently, we live in a 2 bedroom apartment, and need to move out ASAP! Our physical safety and mental and emotional wellness have been jeopardized by our neighbour’s behaviour. I am looking to get help to move out and pay first and last as well as a few months’ rent so I can heal from my triggered PTSD and sleep deprivation. Then I can come back into the world, find work and return to being a productive contributing member of my community. I have tried so hard for a year and a half to find a solution and keep my home but the following will make it clear that I must move out now.
Unfortunately, our neighbour is also suffering her own battles (with mental health and drug addictions) and I feel for her. However, her struggles have put my son and me in harm's way. She has many long periods of rage and destructive behaviour. Examples of this have been: screaming at the top of her lungs, banging on the walls, breaking glass against the walls and doors, throwing her body and other objects against the walls in her apartment, slamming all the doors in her unit and balcony along with the staircase doors. Sometimes she comes out of her unit with knives or broomsticks and threatens to stab or shank someone. She will slam open the staircase doors to scream these threats at the top of her lungs, her voice now amplified and echoing, causing my son and me to jump in fear.
She has threatened to stab and punch me. At first, I thought she didn’t see ‘me'. She was seeing the person who harmed her. However, since she’s learned that I’ve complained numerous times to the landlord, and in the last 6 months I have had to call the police many times* asking for a crisis unit to join them; she has started to target me in her moments of rage.
She has thrown things at my bedroom window screaming on her balcony that she will harm me if I don’t shut the f**k up and stop complaining. She has accused me of raping her, stealing her laundry (she saw my clothes piled on my table through my bedroom window- I no longer open my curtains) and harming her.
She has also entered my unit with her fists in my face screaming at me as I backed up. So far raising my voice has deterred her from actually physically assaulting me. I have had no choice but to shout out. This always leaves me feeling angry, scared, and at a loss. I am not a violent person, but I will defend myself if it means staying safe and alive. I don’t like being put in a situation where I may have to defend myself by putting my hands on someone. My shouting out has resulted in her going back into her unit to start slamming doors, raging and being destructive again for hours. The vibration makes my son and I feel like we are experiencing an earthquake.
I have witnessed her smoking cigarettes in the staircase and the smell would enter my unit. This then puts me in a position where I am not breathing properly- I have asthma and allergies and my lungs become restricted. She has visitors that wait for her in the hall and staircase also smoking and doing drugs (I have witnessed this. They leave behind their needles, pipes and packaging.) This smell also enters my unit and at times my son and I have had to vacate our home just to escape the toxicity.
I moved into my apartment a little over 2 years ago and a few months later she moved into hers. I have been dealing with this destruction a few times a month over a year. I believe everyone is allowed to have a few bad days and to release their pain and anger in ways that don’t hurt others. But since COVID has shut us in, her bad days have made it impossible for me to sleep for weeks on end. A few times a month have become a day in day out nightmare. During her bad periods, I am lucky to get a few hours of quiet a day.
I have asked to be moved to a different apartment in my building but have been told that is not possible. When I ask why? They refused to give me a proper answer.
I have struggled to get to where I am in life, it has not been easy. I had my son at 19 years old and we’ve jumped from place to place before moving into our current home. I have always tried to make a loving clean quiet healthy home wherever we were. I was counting on this lovely apartment being our home for many years. I was excited to finally create a stable home for us to learn and grow in.
Having stability and feeling safe is my main goal and priority. I have not had the easiest life, I struggle with my own mental health and I’ve worked hard to build a healthy infrastructure and lifestyle so my I can heal generational trauma and abuse. This situation is jeopardizing my safety, my sanity and my ability to keep my son safe and away from what I had to endure as a child and young adult.
So before I hit rock bottom, I am writing this go fund me letter to ask for help. I am looking to raise enough funds for moving costs, first and last month’s rent, and rent for a few months. I want to put my energy into feeling safe, healthy and strong enough to be the best mother I can be, to get back to work and give my son security and stability so he can thrive.
If you can please consider supporting our cause to find safety and build a healthy home and if you are unable to financially support please consider sharing our story with your friends, family and networks! Thank you in advance for any love, prayers and contributions you send our way!
Unfortunately, our neighbour is also suffering her own battles (with mental health and drug addictions) and I feel for her. However, her struggles have put my son and me in harm's way. She has many long periods of rage and destructive behaviour. Examples of this have been: screaming at the top of her lungs, banging on the walls, breaking glass against the walls and doors, throwing her body and other objects against the walls in her apartment, slamming all the doors in her unit and balcony along with the staircase doors. Sometimes she comes out of her unit with knives or broomsticks and threatens to stab or shank someone. She will slam open the staircase doors to scream these threats at the top of her lungs, her voice now amplified and echoing, causing my son and me to jump in fear.
She has threatened to stab and punch me. At first, I thought she didn’t see ‘me'. She was seeing the person who harmed her. However, since she’s learned that I’ve complained numerous times to the landlord, and in the last 6 months I have had to call the police many times* asking for a crisis unit to join them; she has started to target me in her moments of rage.
She has thrown things at my bedroom window screaming on her balcony that she will harm me if I don’t shut the f**k up and stop complaining. She has accused me of raping her, stealing her laundry (she saw my clothes piled on my table through my bedroom window- I no longer open my curtains) and harming her.
She has also entered my unit with her fists in my face screaming at me as I backed up. So far raising my voice has deterred her from actually physically assaulting me. I have had no choice but to shout out. This always leaves me feeling angry, scared, and at a loss. I am not a violent person, but I will defend myself if it means staying safe and alive. I don’t like being put in a situation where I may have to defend myself by putting my hands on someone. My shouting out has resulted in her going back into her unit to start slamming doors, raging and being destructive again for hours. The vibration makes my son and I feel like we are experiencing an earthquake.
I have witnessed her smoking cigarettes in the staircase and the smell would enter my unit. This then puts me in a position where I am not breathing properly- I have asthma and allergies and my lungs become restricted. She has visitors that wait for her in the hall and staircase also smoking and doing drugs (I have witnessed this. They leave behind their needles, pipes and packaging.) This smell also enters my unit and at times my son and I have had to vacate our home just to escape the toxicity.
I moved into my apartment a little over 2 years ago and a few months later she moved into hers. I have been dealing with this destruction a few times a month over a year. I believe everyone is allowed to have a few bad days and to release their pain and anger in ways that don’t hurt others. But since COVID has shut us in, her bad days have made it impossible for me to sleep for weeks on end. A few times a month have become a day in day out nightmare. During her bad periods, I am lucky to get a few hours of quiet a day.
I have asked to be moved to a different apartment in my building but have been told that is not possible. When I ask why? They refused to give me a proper answer.
I have struggled to get to where I am in life, it has not been easy. I had my son at 19 years old and we’ve jumped from place to place before moving into our current home. I have always tried to make a loving clean quiet healthy home wherever we were. I was counting on this lovely apartment being our home for many years. I was excited to finally create a stable home for us to learn and grow in.
Having stability and feeling safe is my main goal and priority. I have not had the easiest life, I struggle with my own mental health and I’ve worked hard to build a healthy infrastructure and lifestyle so my I can heal generational trauma and abuse. This situation is jeopardizing my safety, my sanity and my ability to keep my son safe and away from what I had to endure as a child and young adult.
So before I hit rock bottom, I am writing this go fund me letter to ask for help. I am looking to raise enough funds for moving costs, first and last month’s rent, and rent for a few months. I want to put my energy into feeling safe, healthy and strong enough to be the best mother I can be, to get back to work and give my son security and stability so he can thrive.
If you can please consider supporting our cause to find safety and build a healthy home and if you are unable to financially support please consider sharing our story with your friends, family and networks! Thank you in advance for any love, prayers and contributions you send our way!
Organizer
Huda Eldardiry
Organizer
Toronto, ON