Shoulder - Shoulder

I have started this charity for multiple reasons in the hope to help and support everyone from men struggling with mental health, anyone diagnosed with a critical or life threatening illness, families of those diagnosed on what to expect.

Those wanting to leave the institutionalised world we live in to follow their passion and dreams of starting their own business and changing from working to live to living for work.

Having once been a very confident, albeit wearing a mask, successful Operations Manager for an International company, dealing with CEO's from across Europe. The core person of family, friends, colleagues, rugby club and the instigator of all parties and events. Proud father and husband, owner of a 4 bedroom house (which by rights I should not have got to if you'd have seen my upbringing and listened to the haters), BMW M4 (which was a life goal that I achieved in front of my father-before this illness caused me to right it off). I was reduced to a pathetic shell, scared to leave the house, waking up in a blood bath. I had gone from being a fat bullied 22 stone kid to a fully qualified PT, playing rugby twice a week and in the gym 5 days per week to a flabby waste of space who could not get out of bed for days. I'd gone from 100 mates to no mates. I'd gone from Mr Universe to Mr Reverse. Worried what impact my image and condition, symptoms and behaviours would have on those around me. Scared to admit about what was happening to me and what could happen to my family. Scared of losing my job. I pushed everyone away. Feeling as though everything that I had accomplished in life from all the adversity I had already overcome, there must be a reason that this was happening to me and no matter what I had already got through that I wasn't good enough for my wife, daughter, friends and family. I gave up.

However,

I'm better than that.

My family deserve better than that.

My real friends deserve better than that.

I got to that state because I didn't know what this illness was. I got to that state because I didn't open up about how I felt (even though I thought I was made of granite - Id dealt with so much and was the one that everybody else turned to for help)

I got to this state because I was living a life where 50% of it was an act - including my job.

No-one around me, medically, personally anywhere online/locally, knows what this illness is. I'm going to change that by exposing my vulnerable self. I'm going to work with the NHS to make sure no other family goes through this (WHEN I BEAT THIS) I'm going to work with the DWP to show them how unemployed and mental health go hand in hand because I didn't want to claim - but I had to, and in doing so they drove me mental ! Having to prove your terminally unwell !!! Im going to to work with people who are scared to leave the comfort of their salary to chase a dream and be happy, people who are a bit low and need a kick up the b*m, business who need staff and teams engaged, process' efficiently streamlined, initiatives for new projects....

I have recently taken inspiration and guidance believing that I needed help with work/business however I soon realised that I needed help with my personal side too. I always thought of myself as strong but soon realised I wasn't. I was made to stand back and look at the whole me - personal and professionally . I've now realised that in taking a closer look I can see what's important, what I want to do, who I can help and how.

Business Wayne has been introduced to Emotional Wayne and believe me when I say the love child is POWERFUL. Using all my life experiences, having documented mine & family's journey so far as we're about to enter the hardest month of our lives..... I will expose myself totally, I will go out of my comfort zone and share all my personal self, I have found the courage to ask for help, to be uncomfortable - because I have a purpose...

I will make a difference.

I will save lives.

I will beat this thing. I will WIN, WE WILL WIN !

** Please note, my charity has not been registered as yet, the social media accounts are made but not complete, there is a to do list of a million things - BUT I am focussing on myself right now, I have respected my illness having pushed it that far last week to the point of cardiac arrest. I am in for Chemo therapy this next few weeks so ... I have asked for local students, local business wanabe's for help - if you have a dream of digital marketing, PR, accounting (and I've had a lot of replies to date) I will help and support your career by giving you this platrform...

Moving on there will be a registered RCN, bank account, social media on all platforms, podcatst, book, mediacal research reference, professional medical consultancy (form the UKs TOP WOMAN) Inspiration and motivation from THE WORLDS No1...

SO DONATE NOW - SEND ME YOUR DETAILS, CO NAME, TAG SHOULDER - SHOULDER IN ALL YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA and come along for the ride and see what benefits YOU / YOUR BUSINESS get from this... BECAUSE BY SUPPORTING ME YOU WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE