The Story of Tamara Fowler

A Survivor Betrayed by Violent Men—And Arizona’s Misogynistic “Justice” System

Tamara Fowler is not just the victim of violent men—she is the victim of a violent system. A system that criminalizes women for surviving. A system that punishes victims instead of protecting them. A system that, time and time again, has made it painfully clear: in Arizona, justice is reserved for white men.

Let me be clear—this is not a story of allegations. This is a true story. A July 2025 story. A story backed by fact and lived trauma. A story that could have ended in death.

In 2018, Tamara’s infant son died tragically while she was at work. The child’s father—Tamara’s fiancé—smothered the crying baby with over 20 pounds of blankets so he could sleep. Hours later, he woke up to find the baby unresponsive.

Tamara wasn’t even there.

She was at her job, unaware of the nightmare unfolding at home. She lost her entire family of 4, by one act, in an instant. And yet, she was arrested. She was charged with first-degree murder. She was jailed for three months. Now, she lives with a felony conviction and 15 years of probation for something she had no part in. She got a phone call after emergency services were already on scene. And still, Arizona’s system decided she was the criminal.

That injustice alone would break most people.

But it didn’t stop there.

Because of her probation, Tamara was forced to remain in Tucson. And in July 2025, she was nearly killed by her boyfriend of five years—a man she had every reason to believe she could trust. That man pointed a loaded gun in her face, pretending to shoot her. Tamara hid the gun. That act of resistance may have saved her life, but it also unleashed his full rage.

He beat her beyond recognition.

He choked and smothered her until her body began convulsing.

He hit her with whatever was in reach.

He dragged her into the bathroom and waterboarded her with a showerhead.

She needed stitches in her brow, eight staples in her head, she sustained broken ribs and multiple contusions all over her body, and trauma care that never came.

The man who did this to her also assaulted his sedentary elderly father. He even fought with the police who responded to Tamara’s call for help. And yet, he was released after six days in jail—on his own recognizance.

How?

How does a man who nearly murdered a woman, assaulted his own father, and fought the police walk free in under a week—while Tamara, a domestic violence survivor, sits with a felony record for a crime she didn’t commit?

This is what systemic misogyny looks like.

This is how Arizona treats survivors.

I’ve created a GoFundMe to help Tamara restart her life. I’ll be flying to Tucson to support her. I’m on standby for her probation transfer to be approved so she can leave the state. Once that happens, I’ll need to rent a vehicle big enough to pack up her life and drive her across the country—all within 7 days, to meet probation requirements she never should have been saddled with.

Tamara needs financial help for a rental vehicle to get her across the country, to her home state, New York, hotels along the way, food, gas, tolls, and money to get her by while she continues to heal and get back on her feet.