Shaira Bambi's Private Gender Affirming Surgery

Hello I am Shaira Bambi Choudhury, I'm mustering all my courage to ask for help and as much as I don't believe I am deserving of your help I am desperate to not feel this horrible.

I am a Non-binary Trans Woman (Pronouns They/She). I am a Muslim, British Bengali and that complicated my coming out for a long time. I don’t really know what my pivotal coming-out period was. It was never a moment of excitement or an event to revel in. It was small, timid steps of desperation, of wanting to be seen. Not through someone else’s image, but my own. Those steps I regret not taking earlier but am elated to have taken, nonetheless but it has still been difficult. I finally came out to my mother in 2019 who I thought would disown me due to our faith but she accepted me.

So after coming out and now three years on from getting on the NHS waiting list, I am still waiting for even my first appointment. I was fortunate enough to go privately for hormones though I was self-medicating before then because of the fear of any of my family finding out.

I still have an atrociously long wait to go on the NHS actually offering me to even go on the surgical waiting lists for anything and the wait is excruciating. I experience daily emotional pain because of my body and the way I was born. Suffer from depression and daily suicidal thoughts and ideation triggered by my genitals.

So I am raising £25,000 for gender-affirming surgery, specifically for vaginoplasty and any donations will help me reach that goal and give me a chance at this life-changing and saving goal!

Here is the breakdown of approximate funds as I will try to be as transparent with you as possible.

Two private doctor surgery referrals - Approximately £300

Initial Private surgery consultation - Approximately £200

The private surgery and surgeon cost - Approximately £23,000

Go fund me donation fees and cuts - Approximately £1200

I know I am asking for a lot but it truly is a necessity more than anything for me. Even sharing this will be helpful. I super appreciate everyone for even taking the time and reading this. That in itself means so much to me!