Seeking Justice, Freedom & Healing After Divorce & Betrayal

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I'm a proud person, but I'm sick over what a challenge this has proven to be. The situation is completely exhausting and it's never-ending, so back to court I go. This time to file an order of contempt against him because he violated the divorce judgment.

Im sure you know who I mean, I'll never say his name again let alone write it out makes me physically ill. Im in a position now where I am desperate for assistance. However, being the sort to give assistance rather than take it I felt the need to explain to you as best I can why, without saying so much that it complicate other things currently going on. For those of you who read this I hope you have enough empathy to understand the shame and strength that threads these zero closure situations where prayers are simply not enough and actions need to be taken to help the suffering and protect from more damage occurring.

Here's the timeline of things that happened:

March 2024: I fled the house feeling unsafe, came back to get a few things, and met with a surprise of charges that were later dismissed, he was claiming that I was abusive to him and to my dog as an attempt to remove me from my home and control the situation. There were zero judgments made on those claims with no evidentiary proof of any of it, but the judge saw fit we stay away from one another so it worked I was not allowed to go home. I left with the clothes on my back. I immediately got an attorney to start what I thought would be an out-of-court separation agreement and divorce proceedings.

April 2024: He turns himself in (you've all seen the news, I'm not getting into that. I'm on 5 medications and had to see 3 therapists because of that mess. You don't even know the hell it's been).

Because of the back and forth, I was out of the house and paying $1,985 a month on the mortgage from March until August, even though I wasn't living there, just to keep it out of foreclosure until a ruling could be made, but it never came. After my last $9k+ was spent, I couldn't do it anymore. More back and forth, exhausting my living expenses and finances with attorney fees at the time totaling $36,000 because the right thing just couldn't be done. Now I'm facing bankruptcy, staying with family. The news reports, the radio, discovering other things that working all the time prevented me from knowing. Its so bizarre i cannot even put it into words and it wasn't stopping. Fast forward all the way to:

November 2024: Because by then I could no longer afford counsel, the attorney was kind enough to get me out of the marriage pro bono, and I signed an agreement that stated I walk away from literally everything under the condition he takes responsibility for it without any financial help from me. He would have 5 months to get it all out of my name.

1 year later, April 2025: He violates the divorce judgment he broke me over because he never paid to take care of anything. The bank, unable to reach him, sends paperwork to me on the house I'm not supposed to have anything to do with, stating that I'm liable for over $29,000.

Now I have to take him back to court prior to his trial in May with zero resources to do so. I've had it with this, I'm tired and not only want to be done with any dealings with him, I'm tired of the ridiculousness I've been subjected to in an attempt to just be done. What this has done to me and my family has no words, Im not so diluted that a person cant see how its rapidly aged me. I was a top performer, corporate executive powerhouse, living in the home I worked hard for and the life I worked hard for, you've seen all of the photos, you've been to the house, you know how hard I worked while building it with my own two hands. I had zero idea of the level of betrayal and trauma I would be subjected to.

Today, I work hard to keep it together in spite of the circumstances. My career is gone due to stigmatization, my health complications with edema in my legs, lung problems due to scarring, trauma creating a myriad of issues, and 5 different medications to curb the PTSD and anxiety. I went from being able to speak in front of a crowd of over 500 people to barely handling a grocery store, but I work really hard and I'm doing the best I can and try hard every day. I use the healthiest practices and share my experience with others so they do not have to go through what I have gone through or experience what I am going through. My old life is obliterated, destroyed, gone. So now I need your help. Help me file with the Supreme Court and get things over with so I can start my life free of all of this. I am desperate to stop it.