Saving Sarah Kathryn

My dear friends, I cannot begin to express to you just how grateful I am for all the love you have shown my darling Sarah Kathryn as you have watched her grow over the first 6 years of her life. In spite of the fact that she is happy by nature, and you almost always see her smiling, there are things that she began sharing with me about 2 years ago, and more just recently, which I was able to videotape. There are some things I have witnessed firsthand, one of which I began sharing with you on Facebook this past week. Until now, only a few of you knew about these things because I generally believe in staying on the high road and not going public with these kinds of things. It is with a certain amount of reluctance that I share these disturbing things now, but sadly for my daughter, the system has never protected her the way they should have, and I personally have not been able to protect her the way I would have hoped as her father.

Please don’t misunderstand my intent, because this not is not about revenge, it's only about rescuing Sarah Kathryn from a mother who I’m told (by her sister) has been suffering all her life, seemingly from a full blown malignant personality disorder. So I would ask first and foremost that you pray for her mother and ask God for healing because I have witnessed some of the scariest things I've ever seen in my life. Sadly, from everything I have learned, there is no cure for this, so it really is going to take a miracle.

The picture you see is one that I snapped just after watching her mother grab her by the cheek, and (while squeezing hard enough to leave the red mark that you see) shaking her head violently back and forth out of shear anger. I had already been processing how to handle the information my daughter had shared with me a few months prior to this. She told me that her mom would punish her by locking her in a dark bathroom for timeouts. She also told me that her mom was slapping her on the face. My previous experience with Child Protective Services (CPS) gave me no hope that they would do anything about this, so I ultimately filed a report with the LA County Sheriffs Department, and the case was assigned to the Special Victims Unit. Much to my dismay, they were just as worthless as CPS. The authorities have made it abundantly clear that they care nothing about my daughter, only in protecting her mother. Even when she walked into oncoming traffic on a freeway on-ramp with Sarah Kathryn (when she was just 3 weeks old) and was in the process of being arrested for felony child endangerment, she made a false claim against me that got her out of it.

The main reason I do not have full custody of Sarah Kathryn, is that, I chose not to have her mother arrested when she assaulted me and left bloody claw marks all over my upper body. And unfortunately, after extending her more mercy than she deserved, she later chose to run to the court and make the most unimaginable false allegations of abuse against me. And she’s been perpetrating evil against me almost nonstop since then. We’re talking about something that goes far beyond Narcissistic Abuse, and believe it or not, this tormenting has continued day in and day out over the course of my cancer journey for the past 18 months.

As I mentioned in one of my earlier posts in late July, and again several weeks ago, I have great cause for concern about the potential long term effects on Sarah Kathryn, both from an emotional and psychological standpoint. I asked you guys to pray for Gods protection and for the wisdom I would need to take the best course of action. So I’ve determined that I really need to build a legal fund that will allow me to go back to court to seek a restraining order on my daughters behalf and/or try to get a significant modification made to the custody. God willing, I can get full custody. But my only hope of achieving that is if I request court ordered psychological evaluations (which they will require for all of us) and I'm told will cost $30,000 give or take. And there will be quite a sum of attorneys fees, most likely exceeding $30,000. Between legal fees already paid and lost income over the first 2 years of our case, it would be accurate to say that it’s cost me at least $150,000. I have probably lost that same amount in the past 18 months due to my cancer treatment and my mortgage business coming to a screeching halt. With that said, I’m just tapped out at this time and do not have the resources necessary to get these changes made with the court. I don’t mean to be presumptuous in any way, but I would be so grateful if you are able to make a donation of any amount to our cause. You all know how much my daughter means to me, and your help would mean more to me than you could possibly know.

Thank you so very much & God Bless You