Save Sweet Irish Jamie's Life

My boyfriend was in a terrible car accident at 17 years old. His heart stopped for 6 excruciating minutes and his face was completely smashed to bits. When he was revived, he found nothing but unbearable and permanent pain. Over the past 15 years, he's had countless surgeries and procedures, seen every doctor in the country of Northern Ireland (and several in England), been gaslighted, abandoned, and ignored, and lost absolutely everything. The accident broke his jaw completely and he had dental surgery done by an abusive and lying doctor who performed malpractice (without consequences). This has left his jaw dislocated and locked to a nearly closed position, making it difficult to eat, speak, or function. The excruciating pain and constant pressure on his nerves has spread throughout his head, face, neck, shoulders, and torso, causing his whole body to become crooked and misaligned, as well as intense sensitivity of sensations. He can barely stand to be touched, even gently. His nervous system is completely dysregulated and it has caused malabsorption and inflammation. He's currently 90 lbs and barely able to function in daily tasks. He has described the pain as having your head being crushed every minute of every day in a continuously tightening vice. His ears bleed regularly from the pressure of it and the pain makes him vomit frequently.

Now, after over a decade of hopelessness and countless doctors shrugging and telling him nothing can be done to heal his broken face or relieve his pain, he's finally gotten an opportunity to get treatment. Through an unconventional physical therapist I found for him, he was able to get connected to a highly skilled dental surgeon willing to work with him. He needs to fly to Newcastle, England, to meet with the dentist and get scans done to determine if he needs jaw realignment surgery or simply a series of realignment devices or implants. The money we raise for him will go to plane tickets, cost of the scans, visits with the dental surgeon, surgery or any other devices needed to reset his jaw, continued physical therapy, and anything else he needs to fix this traumatic injury. We don't know the full scope of cost yet, but insurance won't cover anything in the UK, so it's going to be very expensive. I've started the amount as an estimate but may need more if the process becomes more complicated.

He desperately wants to live and to improve his quality of life (which is currently zero quality at all). He needs a lot of help financially to make this happen because he doesn't qualify for disability income or any government aid in his country (totally broken system!). Please help me prove to him that human beings are kind, compassionate, and caring. He's only ever experienced abuse and neglect before he met me, but I can't help him all by myself. If you could donate even a dollar or just share this fundraiser, please do so.

How we met:

A few years ago, feeling like he had no choice but to end his life, he attempted suicide and committed self-harm to try to get relief from the suffering. Chronic pain is extremely isolating. He lost friendships, relationships, and trust in anyone. But in 2023, in a last effort to make a human connection before leaving this world, he got on an app that let you make friends with people around the world. By a miracle of God, he was matched with me, and our journey together began. I felt drawn to him and his story. My heart connected with his the moment we met in person in 2024, and it was love at first sight. This is how we saved each other from across an ocean. This is how a beautiful relationship flourished out of trauma. He thought no one could ever see anything but his brokenness. But I see how breathtakingly stunning, smart, intuitive, goofy, caring, loyal, respectful, and adventurous he is. Now, he fights for his life every day. I'm so proud of him and love him with all my heart! The message that we want everyone to know from our story is that IT'S NEVER TOO LATE. You're never too far gone to be loved. You're never too broken to be whole again.