Assalamualaikum Hello.

My name is Shopna, Saifs wife. We have been married for 4years coming to almost 5years in July.

If you know Saif he is full of life, he's down to earth, never saw any bad in people. He was a peoples person and always got everyone to smile. You could just sit and spend hours with him chatting away. He was very well spoken and mannered. He cared even without knowing you.

Today im battling each day to give Saif the recovery he needs but, after having to retire from my job to be his main carer I’m in a predicament. I know that Allah never burdens a soul more than it can bear, but I know I’m not coping well.

The past 2 years, my everyday routine looked like this, after work (8am-4pm) come home prepare Saifs meal, then setting of to travel 32miles to get to Walkergate Park for 6pm until 8pm then heading back home. I didn’t have the freedom to stay with him around the clock. Or given any flexibility with the visiting hours. Even though it was exhausting, I continued until he got an offer to be moved a little closer to me. So I grasped at the offer and accepted it. He then got a transfer to Bishop Auckland Bowes Court.

Bowes Court was flexible with visiting times, everyday I spent hours from 4.30pm till midnight some nights i used to leave around 2am as he would get frustrated and like a kid want to leave to come home with me them days were the hardest test but Alhamdulillah managed and battled through each day.

Saif spent his last year there with little improvement, and a big fight, I won his appeal to bring him home and decided to give him my full attention. As in care homes, that’s not something you receive.

Saifs life changed completely when it took a turn and became very unwell in Aug 2023 he had a pus-filled abscess that erupted, this abscess travelled to his brain through his blood stream which also led to having 3 major stroke all at once which has left Saif physically, mentally impaired. He is currently bedbound having to be hoisted and has very minimal verbal MV communication.

Saif was away from home for all this time to make recovery until Dec 2025 he came home.

Due to his fatigue Saifs recovery has been very slow and with his speech impairment he has APHASIA he swears and shouts as he cant communicate with words. Easily gets distressed and frustrated. I’m not a weak person, I can accept every challenging situation however, seeing him in distress all the time, weakens me.

Saif has been refused for community physio due to his fatigue. I have still been successful in taking him for exercise and he is showing great motivation towards this and is wanting to recover however he is requiring hands on physiotherapy sessions to get him to stand and walk again.

We have been to see a professional physiotherapist and they have said Saif has potential to walk as long as he is getting his sessions in. He requires 2hour sessions 3times a week.

Everything that government gives like UC and PIP is next to nothing as it all goes towards home bills food and Saifs toilettery expenses.

Im having to shift his body weight 15stones with 1 arm to give him changes when carers are not around.

Im asking for everyone's gratitude to supporting me with Saifs recovery to make him stand and walk again. All the funds raised will go towards his Physiotherapy sessions also equipments that i would need to purchase to keep his excersises going at home everyday. I will post upto date pictures of Saif and keep everyone updated on his recovery. InnShaAllah.

I know it's all Allah swt will, Saif may never be perfect again but I would like him to get a little independent to be able to hold and move his weight to make things easier for both of us.

Thank you so much for taking time reading this post.

Really appreciate it

Thank you

KINDEST REGARDS

Shopna and Saifur