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Jessica's Freedom/ Divorce Fund

See that kid in the picture.  He is one of several blessings in my life.  This is for him first and foremost.

For the privacy of myself and others, I am not going to go into details.  Please know that there are many forms of abuse and everyone of them is wrong.

Like many people that get married too young and for the wrong reasons, things fall apart.  For all intents and purposes I was a fantastic wife and while that is done I plan on being an even better EX-wife. Things can by all means remain amicable, but that does involve each person pulling their own weight.  

The problem is, that on a six figure income he has someone else financing his part of the divorce.  I am not asking for anything, but for some reason this is being drawn out on MY dime.   Were the playing field even, this could be deemed par for the course; but it's not.  

I was asked to stop working and stay home with the kids; it made financial sense.  I saw nothing wrong with this and was not only happy, but  blessed to have had that time with my children.  Yet children grow and if you do your job right, they do not need you in the same ways as they did when they were small.  With the free time that comes with school age kids, I grew interested in going back to school myself, at least part time.  That was quickly squashed once it became known that I was unwilling to take the courses that HE wanted me to take.  
Trying to get a job outside of the home proved just as difficult.  I will not go into that either.
Over time, how isolated we had become from most friends and some family began to become apparent.  
And I slowly began to wake up...
To so many bigger problems that were there and either not being acknowledged in the first place or able to be mended or fixed.

Long story short, with little more than a part time COMMISSION paying (not even lucky enough for minimum wage) job, I packed the kids, cat and what I would fit into a moving truck and left.
None of this happened over night and it seemed as if we would remain in perpetual seperation.  Each living in a different part of the country.  

Suddenly HE needed us to be divorced.  I am okay with that too. I have no desire to be married to that man, nor do I want anything from him.

All I ask is that based off of HIS income he pay a reasonable amount of child support.
I do not want the house, although I would like a few of my childhood things and the stuff that was my kids when they were small from the attic.  
I do not want spousal support in any way, shape or form.  I only want what the law says I am entitled to. None of which really effcts him.
So why drag this out you ask?  To make me pay.  

It is HIS son that he does not send enough child support for.  A teenager, esp in boy form is ALWAYS hungry.  Financially we SHOULD have qualified for assistance of some sort, but because we are legally married the system said that we were not eligible for food stamps.
What so many people do not realize is that to work in a retail envirnment in some big box stores, you are paid commission.  What that means is that if no one is in the store, or buying things from you in your department, you are not making any money.  Oh!  And if said item was returned to the store, that money came back out of your check.  
Please do not get me wrong, my job is not his fault, but had I been able to attend school like I wanted there is always the possibility that my job prospects could have been better.  Yet it is what it is.  The economy sucks(ed) anyhow, so what's the point of playing "shoulda, woulda, coulda"
My theory has always been if you want something bad enough, somehow you can make it happen.  It worked during my job search that led me to my current job and now I NEEDED to find a better job.  We had reached the point where the pay checks were coming in at about $180 a week.  Who can live off of that!?!  And for full time work!!!

And still this divorce drags on.  Notes get passed between lawyers and the bills rack up.,. on my end at least.  
I am now required to be in court in another state mid-summer for a hearing about this.  This involves time off of work and plane tickets.  Again on my dime.

We have now reached an impasse . If I do not pay my lawyer IN FULL, he will be unabe to represent me.  So I am humbling myself and asking for YOUR help.  I am not asking for large donations, but at this point I am not too big to accept them either.  Anything, large or small, is a help.

Help me finally shake loose of this man and fight for what my son deserves.  

Thank you.

Namaste.































































































































































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  • Richard Halverson
    • $1,000
    • 10 yrs
  • Anonymous
    • $500
    • 10 yrs
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Jessica Halverson Foor
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Milwaukee, WI

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