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Legal fees for child rape victim

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I will never know what it's like to live a life free of abuse.  My earliest memories are of abuse.  My oldest brother began raping me at a very young age.  It continued until I begged my mother not to leave the house one evening, finally telling myself being in big trouble with my mom (which he made me believe would happen) would be better than being abused again.  I didn't know what sex was, or what was happening to me.  I just knew I didn't want it to happen anymore.  So, when I told her, I simply said "when you leave, Rob touches me."  Sadly, my parents didn’t keep him from me very long because they didn’t know how severe it was. They never asked me details. It continued until he moved out.  He left the house the following year for college.  Shortly after I learned in school what sex was.  I lived the rest of my life in fear of him.  I didn't know laws had been broken.  I didn't know that my parents should have reported it.  I didn't know a lot of things.  But I would never forget the Hell that I had lived through.  

Fast forward 30 years, and I was a mother of 5 kids, doing my best but failing.  On the verge of suicide, I decided to end the silence and let the monster out that I had been hiding.  I knew that my parents didn't know the severity of the abuse, because no one ever asked me.  But, I needed them to know that I was going to start talking about the abuse, because my children needed their mom.  I told Rob, my rapist, that I was going to start talking about it.  He begged me not to, apologized, told me it would ruin his family, etc.  The manipulation was thick.  I soon learned that talking about it made me feel better.  It made me feel stronger.  It made me want to keep talking about it, and help other people in similar situations.  I made a website so I didn't have to repeat my story over the phone over and over, as I spoke to police, legislators, and friends.  

Here is the website with my story.

My brother is now suing one of my brothers with false claims, to get back at him for being on my side, and helping me in my recovery.  Sadly, I don't have a lot of support from family.  But this brother was very vocal in his support, and gave me so much courage.  

To help defend my brother, I was added to the lawsuit.  It's the only way to clear his name in this ridiculous lawsuit.  In addition, I am counter suing him to be held accountable for the repeated rape that happened almost daily over the span of many years.  

I am trying to raise money for legal fees, so my family doesn't suffer.  My brother (my supportive brother) has already spent nearly $10,000 dollars on legal fees, and I would love to help pay him back, for standing with me against our abusive brother.

Please help me to defend myself against my rapist.  The cost of legal fees are crazy high, and with your help, I can bring a little bit of Justice to my world, finally.


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    • $100 
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    • $10 
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    • $150 
    • 3 yrs
  • Darin Mills
    • $50 
    • 4 yrs


Julie Whiteley
Provo, UT

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