Emergency Help Needed

Hello my friends. I have thought long and hard about creating this post, this was not an easy decision. Asking for help never is. So please take a moment and read/follow/ share our story.

As many of you know I am batteling breast cancer. I started in Sept 2020 finished Dec 28th with the hard chemos ( that cause hair loss along with many other side effects that make you want to just die). I had a lympectomy on Jan 28,2021. And on that day my husband yelled at me as he was dropping me off for surgery- I want a divorce. I thought he was just mad because I yelled at him for his road rage incident. Went on about my life.. and on Feb 19,2021 discovered he had moved on. I was devastated as many of you know. Blindsided.

He has not been home since Jan 30th. He rarely sees his boys. Spends all his "extra" time with the mistress and her daughter just 30 min away. I discovered he also spent/withdrew close to $23,000 from Sept 2020 to April 2021... funds not spent on OUR family- all documented via bank statements. Causing me to dip into my medical bill savings just to pay rent, bills, food, etc on just my Scentsy salary (which is only worked as a side gig- not as a FT job). I completed 22 rounds of radiation in March 2021. And am now on #4 of 14 kadcyla chemo (preventative measures). During this time, I filed for divorce and have court orders for him to pay CS, rent, my vehicle, cell phones and health insurance. He is not paying the CS. Did not pay June rent (I had to come up with $2500 from savings) and my landlord wants to evict us due to the situation and being late 3 months in a row. All on him. I still have to pay my court ordered bills on top of his shortcomings. I have applied for renters assistance almost 3 weeks ago and am waiting on the 21 day process. I have applied for jobs. and food assistance. I am trying to sell items not needed as well. The most important concern I have is keeping a roof over my boys head. If we are evicted- we will be homeless. I was not prepared for this. And I do not currently make 3x the rent to sustain a 2 or 3 bedroom apt or rental house. Having been homeless as a child, in foster care and ward of the state--- I know that I never wanted this for my boys/children. Being food and home insecure is the scariest thing in the world. I said I would never put my 3 kids through this. But here I am. Blindsided. going thru chemo. and the will to make it happen. I still can not believe a father can abandon his children like this. ( I was abandoned as child by both parents. We talked about how we were going to break the generational curse and be the funnest grandparents ever !!!!! ) I do not want this person back. I can see now after 16 weeks of therapy 4x a week.... what a narcassist/sociopath he has been for 16 years.

All I care about is providing for the boys and the childhood that he just yanked from them as I tried so hard to preserve that.

Right now we are in need of rental assistance. My landlord still wants us out... I understand the business side of this. I get it.

I am hoping to be able to raise the below amount and give him a good faith advance payment until I can get a job. And let this horrible judicial system play out. I am running out of time. Keeping the boys in training is also vital as that is THEIR only out. THEIR only consistant. and the coaches and teamies have really embraced us during this time. Which I am so greatful for. My boys need that man / fatherly / friend connection.

If anyone can please contribute or share with an organization that can.... the boys and I would greatly appreciate this. I would like to have as much collected by July 1st ( .....still no guarantee the landlord will let us stay. ) But I'm going to give it my all. They are good people who also need to make buisness decisions. So please no hating on them.

Thank you everyone. ❤️ the Pattersons