Ride the Wave for Adam: Lift Up the Reeves ‘Ohana

Our ohana is filled with sadness to announce the sudden and unexpected passing of Adam Reeves.

Adam was a force of nature. He was an explorer at heart, a fisherman by trade, and a fearless waterman who met the ocean each day with reverence and courage. But more than anything, Adam was a devoted husband to Kristyn and a loving father to both his 11-year-old daughter Sanai, and to his 19-year-old hanai daughter Ruby. His sudden and traumatic passing has left their small family reeling, with hearts full of grief and a future suddenly uncertain.

Adam was deeply rooted in his Maui community. Everyone knows that he was always the first to lend a hand, push the limits of what was possible, and inspire those around him to live with integrity and heart - day and night. He gave fully to others and never settled for less than his best. Now, in this unimaginable moment, Kristyn and her daughters are in urgent need of that same care and support.

Your offering to the Reeves `ohana will help them navigate the difficult path ahead: memorial expenses, legal counsel, essential bills, travel costs to bring family to Maui, and the time and resources needed for emotional healing. This is about more than covering expenses…it’s about helping a family feel comforted and held during their darkest hour.

Adam rode every wave with strength and grace. Now, together, we can ride one for him in love, in community, and in honor of all that he’s given us.

Bearing the Unbearable

"There comes a time in every human life when the ground beneath us gives way, when the loss we face is so vast, so unexpected, that it shakes the very structure of who we believe ourselves to be. In that moment, we are asked to bear the unbearable.

Grief... it is not a mistake, nor something to overcome or avoid. It is love, pure love, that has lost its familiar form. It is the mind's way of grappling with the collapse of its expectations. It is the price of having loved so deeply, so truly.

How much sorrow can a heart contain? As much as it has loved. Grief softens the heart, it keeps it fluid, tender, alive. And that softness, that very rawness, is what allows compassion to take root and grow.

Maybe, grief is simply the love we long to give, but can no longer deliver in the way we once did. It is the unspent love, the words left unspoken, the embraces left ungiven, that now lives in the quiet corners as tears in our eyes, in the tightness of our throat, in the hollow ache in our chest.

So maybe grief is love… love with no place to land. And in that emptiness, we discover the doorway to the Sacred.

What if? The shadow, the pain, the suffering, the loss, is not the enemy. It is the teacher. In its depths, we are shown the way back to the light. But the world makes it hard to keep the heart open. It hurts, God, it hurts! It hurts to stay open in a world that seems so full of suffering.

But still, we cannot afford to close. Cuz when we close, we lose not only the pain, we lose the path.

So the invitation, my love, is this: When it becomes unbearable, don’t ask life to change. Let’s ask instead, who is it that finds this unbearable? What self is suffering?

There is a part of us, beyond the personality, beyond the fear, that can bear it. That has already borne it. And when we touch that place, we discover a new way of being. A being that is not destroyed by grief but transformed by it.

Yes, it is rare for a soul to remain conscious through such teachings. Even those who have walked many lifetimes in awareness may only find a whisper of peace in the symphony of heartbreak, rage, confusion, and sorrow. But even that whisper… is Grace.

We cannot take each other's pain away, and nor should we. Pain is the fire that purifies. It must complete its own sacred burn. Something in us dies when we bear the unbearable and maybe it was time for that something to leave.

“Because it is in the deepest night of the soul that we are prepared to see as God sees, to love as God loves.”

The mind will never fully comprehend what has happened. It will try, of course. But the heart, if it remains open, knows. It knows without knowing. It feels the deeper truth that lies beyond reason.

Adam came into this world through love, and through that love, he did his work. Now, his soul is free. The love everyone shared with him… that love is now unbound by time, untouched by change. It is invulnerable. It lives in the eternal. Beyond space and time.

So now, let that love expand. Include everyone! Include everything! Let your love become the whole of it, the beauty and the sorrow, the joy and the despair.

Because, in the end, it is all Love… just wearing different masks."

--contributed by a friend anonymously, to honor Adam