Funeral Expenses For My Mommy

Hello Everyone, although I never thought Id be in a position to do this Im usually not the type of person to ask for help in a time of need. My mommy was diagnosed with breast cancer in Aug. 2017. I was unaware of it no one in my family knew :-( I didnt find out she had cancer until we took her to the ER in October 2017 they said she had a verterbae compression fracture showed cancer in her CT scans and to follow up with her primary care doctor. When we tired to follow up with her primary care doctor which was a hole in the wall clinic on Watt Ave. he was no help at all. A whole 2 months went by, I called the doctors continous times to see when somemone would call me to set up another doctor appointment for testing. The doctor had to order the tests through another hospital. I did not know I could change her doctor and hospital and insuarnce over to another hospital until Dec. 2017. I switch her doctor to Elica Health Care in midtown I finally felt like we were getting the help we needed that they cared about us . We had testing lined up to test and see what kind of cancer she had and how bad it was for month of Dec. 2017. 1 week ago from today (12/17/17) noticed a significant change in my mom her pain progressed and she wasnt able to function at all. (Shes paralyzed on her left side from a car accident in 1982). Shes able to use her Right side with help and assistance. She started to feel no feeling and numbness in that right side. Her pain was so severe. I took her to the ER on 12/11/17 we spent 4-7hrs  in the ER as they ran tests and the doctor finally came said they are going to admitt her and mentioned the cancer has spreaded significantly throughout her body. They dont know what kind of cancer it is what we are dealing with. They scheduled her to do a biopsy the nxt day on 12/12/17. The results take at least 3-4 days to get back. In the mean time other body scans were completed and they started radiation treatment mom was suppose to do this everyday until 12/26/17 this was to relieve the masses on my moms spine this was causing all the pain.  12/14/17 the doctor called me told me cancer has spreaded significanly throughout her body there going to do the best they could for her. Cancer was in her breast, ribs that caused it to fracture, her lungs, all down her spine everywhere else. Needed time to take this all in. When my mom came back from radiation she was totallu different person on 12/14/17. She wouldnt eat, she kept reffering to me as my husband wife......etc. Nxt day on 12/15/17 the discharge nurse pulled me in a office I just started to cry my eyes out I knew it wasnt good news. She said my mom had weeks to live and I had to make the decision of if something were to happen to her csn they recesitate her (Full Code) or (DNR) do not recesistate. My life flash before my eyes. I did not know what to do. My mom appointed me as the decision maker. I had no idea what to do. They also talking about her being on hospice at home and discharged on 12/16/17. I had them stop the radiation treatments as of 12/16/17, this day my mom was getting worst she couldnt talk at all nor eat slept the whole day until She finally woke up hours later was screaming something to me she kept moving around We couldnt understand what she was saying like she was mute and you can tell the pain shes in.  They gave her more pain meds she fell asleep quickly. I had to work the next morning I whispered in my moms ear dont leave me yet wait for me to come back when I got off of work on 12/17/17. We still did know what type of cancer she has . I got a phone call next morning at work at 8:27am she passed away today on 12/17/17 at 8:07am in the morning. I broke down I wasnt there by her side. No one was. It was just me and my Dad. But dad was home hes sick too. The doctor told me he found out that morning my mom had breast cancer since 2013. No one knew about it. Now trying to plan the funeral services and  unfortunately time bee. tough she didnt have life insurance. If you can donate any amount to help me and my family put my mom to rest in peace and share this post we appreciate anything. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart and my families. It means so much to us. If you cant donate its definitely okay I totally understand. Please keep us in prayer as we plan her services amd mourn the lost of my beloved mommy. We love you all.
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Latu Malakai Vicki 
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Sacramento, CA
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