Randy Thomas

Hello my family and friends. I'm so sorry to be a burden or asking for any type of help. I've always been the type of person to try and figure it out for myself.  Ever since losing the kids Dad back in 1994 I've tried to handle things on my own. Unfortunately I can't do this all on my own. Most of you know we lost my brother Don who was 15 yrs old in 1988. I don't think my parents ever recovered from that. Since then it's always been a struggle for them and  I've always tried to help wherever I can. My parents live off their social security which isn't much at all, doesn't even cover their house payment. Now that my Dad has passed my Mom loses his social security. We have an appointment with social security in August to see if there is anything else they can help my Mom with. All I'm trying to do is pay for all the funeral expenses which is due 10 days before the services and keep my mom going for the next few months to see what we will do next. I'm taking some type off work to get my head together and to help get my Mom in a position where she knows she is going to be ok. Most of you know me well enough that I'm not one to ask for help. Unfortunately both my cousins have lost their husband's in the last 9 months. So our family has had to get through 2 funeral expenses and now my Dad's.

We all know our parents are getting older,  my husband and several of my close friends have lost  their parents. But for it to actually happen...it just takes your breath away. It just happened so quick. 

I'm worried about my mom and her health. I have anxiety about losing her. As soon as I get through this I will be taking her to the doctor for all kinds of tests. I'm just sick and heartbroken my Dad was in Kaiser Fontana in January and they just said he had COPD (which we already knew) pneumonia and COVID (I'm sure he never had covid). He left the hospital within 10 days feeling good. In May he went to San Antonio for breathing issues regarding his COPD and they said he had stage 4 lung cancer which metastasized to his liver. He had a biopsy and we received the results June 9th and they said he had 2 weeks to 2 months to live. He passed away a week later. How in the world did Kaiser not know this. Maybe there was nothing we could of done but why didn't they see this. My Dad didn't want to die he wanted to do the chemotherapy but the oncologist told him he was too weak and too thin. My Dad asked him how would he pass away.....I couldn't even imagine how that must of felt...I just Thank the Lord he was able to ask for forgiveness for his sins and ask the Lord into his heart. Because the only way I get through my days right now is knowing I will see him in Heaven...

If you could help me and my family please know from the bottom of my heart I will be forever grateful. Please keep us in your prayers as were all try to get through this.

You are all more than welcome to attend his services. Afterwards Gas and I will be having food and refreshments at our home if you would like to come.

Thank you so much.

May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.

Leah